How do you stop liking someone who has hurt you?
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You sound like you have a level head and know where your going so I will tell you this - a part of you will always love this other person. Now that doesn't mean run back to him.You need to get on with your life. We were given the capability to forgive,but that doesn't mean forget. My second husband was and is an alcoholic. When we were married numerous times he beat me up - once when I was with child. After the last time I did some soul searching, the fact there was a child involved
didn't help but I knew I didn't want her to grow up thinking this was the way a man should treat a woman. You didn't say that anyone else was involved but the thing is you won't forget.
If your looking for someone to give unconditional love back - get a dog. Some day you will find your soul mate, I did. I believe in living happily ever after. You will ...
Love and respect yourself far more than you like him. You don't need to trash him or be hateful. Just look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you're far too beautiful, too intelligent, too wonderful to ever stand for that sort of mistreatment.
Keep up with trying to be busy, it's going to take some time.
Also, hang around people who enjoy your company and will generate a positive environment. This will help you concentrate on the positive that you have, rather than the negative (him). You'll enjoy yourself, and eventually just forget about him and the problems associated with him.
Someone will come along at some point and replace him. Though it may not seem like it, it's true.
Just getting busy is not enough. You need a person to replace him. You are not able to share things which you were sharing with him that is the reason you are missing him. Trying getting someone else if your life.
Well the thing is that we can't do what the heart doesn't want to do, we can't force the heart to forget or to love certain people. Just have faith and patience something that is hard to do but is worth it.
Try to start likeing somone else fast.
I had the same exact problem. No joke! I was so torn up and then I found my husband. You just have to wait for another person to come into your life. It'll all work out.
I think forgiving him was a good start.
Keep busy, but also go out with other friends.
Join a club or social group where you are likely to make other friends. Join one that has similar interests to you.
Give yourself some time. Grieving over a relationship that has ended is normal.
Take up some new activities.
You are on the right track.
You can't trust him to meet your needs. Yet, you keep thinking about him. That seems masochistic and therapy is the treatment for that.
If you don't like the pain of being repeatedly hurt, therapy will help you avoid hurtful people in the future. As for now, it will help you overcome your need to focus on a person that causes you pain.
This depends on what exactly you mean by being hurt?
In my experience i was with someone for almost 4 years but it was a physcial and emotional violent relationship. When i broke up with my partner I couldn't but help it to still think about her and love her!! As CRAZY as it sounds, but we cant help how we feel for someone. Once you lose the trust in a relationship it is exstreamly hard to gain it and keep it again and for me, i had just had enough of the violence.
It certainly WASN'T easy, but i made myself move on. I had to rebuild my confidence and self esteam. I chose to go out to places where i knew she wouldn't go or be at. I had nights in with friends and also made lots of new friends. It didnt help when i did occassionally bump into her but i told myself that WASN'T the life i wanted to live and continued on the new road i was leading now. I guess thats all i can suggest to you. Just be strong, make some new friends, go to different places. Eventually i met someone else and from the start i explainned to them about her so that they understood me. Now shes just part of my history. I too forgive her for what she did and as you say you forgive him and yes that does make it harder. Yet you can still forgive but also move on.
It takes time, so be strong and live on
i have the same problem and just because you still think off and care for him has noting to do with likeing him. i still care for my ex but i dont like him its complicated but yeah just try not to think of him you have to let go or you will get upset
You need to love yourself before you can move on to other people who will treat you the way you should be treated.
meet new people, it will take time,
cause you got to get through the annoying before good.
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