Guys with Social Anxiety Disease?
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(If you don't have SAD don't answer, because you don't understand.)
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I've had problems with SAD myself due to mistreatment in the past by my peers. (Basically just being picked on too much.) I started to stick up for myself and now about 5 years later people respect me completely... But anyhow I developed SAD from being made fun of too much and being picked on. I also get nervous around females now SOMETIMES but not as much as in the past... And I can tell you what my friend, it's really just all in your head, that's what I found. TELL YOURSELF> YOU ARE JUST AS GOOD OF A PERSON AND REAL OF A PERSON AS ANYONE ELSE, WHICH YOU YOURSELF KNOW THIS MORE THAN ANYONE, JUST AS I KNOW MYSELF AND HOW THOUGHTFUL AND REAL OF A PERSON I AM MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE DOES. ( EVEN IF YOUR FAT OR UNATTRACTIVE IT"S WHAT IS ON THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS) I don't know if your worried of being turned down, made fun of, whatever the case is just think of it as this... Whoever turns you down or doesnt give you respect or the time of day... THEY ARE NOT WORTH YOUR TIME ANYWAYS IF THEY ARE THAT COLD HEARTED OR CARELESS. ANY GIRL THAT TALKS TO ME I AT LEAST GIVE THEM THE TIME OF DAY AND IF THEY DON"T GIVE ME THE TIME OF DAY THAT I GIVE OTHERS THAN THEY AREN"T SUITABLE FOR ME ANYWAYS... Don't be shy or scared because you are just as full of thoughts and emotions and you are just as good as any person... Good luck man, I KNOW it's hard, you'll be better one day...
get a gym membership and go on the tredmills and make small talk with the fat girls doing cardio...start with the fat girls to build your confidence! good luck dude
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yeah i have it and its cure is like the nike sloggan JUST DO IT the worst anybody could ever say is no anxiety locks you down and fight or flight kicks in, pump your self up thats what i do when i get ready to speak in public because if i dont speak my family doesnt eat its fight or flight if you dont as k youll never nknow if you had a chance try it PLEASE
Wow, I have had this for years. I have been on Zoloft, Klonapin, Effexor, etc. etc. I am married now at 33 but in my 20's I struggled and struggled with going out. Bars and clubs were intimidating to me, and wow, they still are to a certain extent (among other types of social events). I found a doctor who has me finally on the right combination of meds. One things for sure, I definitely need them. I went through about 5 or 6 different doctors but finally found the one that wouldn't give up and he kept a progress chart of how I felt from week to week. One great thing I did was take up a sport which has overall made me less nervous than before. I usually play right before an event and wow, it also makes a big difference in my stress level. I advise the same for you since it sounds like you have a pretty serious case there. Good luck my friend and hang in there. Feel free to email me if you want more advice or need more specifics.
i used to be a very shy person that was afraid of rejection then i realized that if i never build courage within myself that i would be alone forever. i started looking in the mirror and talking to myself as if i were another person. don't laugh, because it actually helped me to talk to others and hold a conversation without fear of rejection. now i am a social butterfly. besides you just asked this question on the computer so your already off to a great start.
How about girls with SAD? I'll give you my experience anyways. I've had to serious relationships and my SAD has been the main problems in both. I hate parties, nightclubs, and people of course. Anyways, when I know something is really important to my boyfriend such as a family event of meeting his new friend or having someone to go to a company event or whatever, I ask myself is it worth the guilt, depression, and misery to refuse to go and hate myself and get in a fight with him? Or is it better to bite the bullet and go? Usually I find if I go out once a month to something social its enough to appease him. I let him go out to clubs/bars with his friends and just told him I'm not comfortable at those places.
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