I'm stuck in a rut and stuck in my ways, how do I escape and start living again?
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you may also need to know, that I have severe social phobias.I feel like I am screwed.
Other than that, I am ok, good looking guy. lol what a mess!
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In the same boat here. At the mo i'm talking to a therapist who specialises in cognitive therapy, he's making me realise how much i assume or guess all the time, i'm starting to see how stupid my train of thought is...the social anxiety. Going to take a while to retrain my brain i 'guess'...lol but it can and will be done and the one person who can do this is me, with help of course. So, i'd suggest you try and get to see a therapist, it's such a relief to be able to open up and share your worries etc to someone who can understand and also wants to help.
I think the easiest route to intergrate back into society is doing something you enjoy, a club or class as you know you all have something in common, they will and you will be able to have a conversation knowing there's not too much pressure or expectations on either side.
I'm open to ideas as well so i'll watch the replies in here =) with interest.
Hope things improve for you, they will if you want them to and allow yourself to. A journey begins with a single step and i'm sick of sitting on my ****, ha!
take some interesting classes in your spare time.
One of the best ways to break out of such a rut is to find some fulfilling volunteer work. Contact your local "soup kitchen" or homeless shelter and ask about volunteer opportunities. My family and I work in the soup kitchen occasionally. It is easy, just serving the food that others are cooking. It is fun and fulfilling. You can keep as quiet as you want, preserving your privacy, while at the same time having a chance to mingle with other volunteers or with the clients that are being served. Good luck and I hope you feel better!
1. Every night, half an hour before retiring, go to your room, where you can be entirely alone & as remote as possible from noise and distraction. 2. Seat yourself in a wide & comfortable chair, or, better still, lie down on your back at full length. See that your clothing is loosened, so that you will suffer no distressing annoyance on this account. Compose yourself as if for sleep, assuming a position of restfulness, abandon & utter relaxation. Close your eyes, letting the lids rest lightly on your cheeks. 3. Shut your mind resolutely against every form of bodily sensation. Forget for the time that you are encumbered with a body. 4. Bar out of your consciousness every memory, every thought of the past. 5. Build a mental picture of the thing you want to have, to do or to be – the one thing that you immediately desire first & most of all. By this we mean nothing indefinite. We do not refer to ultimate aims that can come only as the result of long periods of effort. We mean something specific, something that can be yours tomorrow, something that in itself constitutes the next step in your chosen career. 6. See yourself finding the ways and means of realizing your desire, overcoming obstacles one after another, all the obstacles that can possibly arise. See yourself called upon to display, & displaying, alertness, promptness, courage, confidence, resourcefulness, patience, push, enterprise, expert knowledge, insight, shrewdness, tact, self-control, decision. See yourself face to face with the situation that confronts you in real life and manifesting the qualities & doing the things necessary to your purpose. Put yourself body & soul into this picture. Multiply details. Rivet your mind upon it. 7. Advance step by step, logically, wisely, consistently, to the climax of the drama. See yourself winning out. See yourself solving the problem, getting the thing you want, acting the part you desire to play. Detach your spirit from the flesh of this world & incorporate it in the mental image of yourself. Live the victory mentally until a sense of its reality permeates your soul. 8. Make your dream picture as delightful as possible. Dwell upon it with joyful satisfaction. Warm your heart with a feeling of thankfulness that that which you have so long desired is really yours. This feeling of gratitude, this emotional element, will bring forth associations that will give life to the picture & will animate your faith. Keep yourself tight shut in this dream world for at least fifteen minutes. 9. Arise and make your preparations for the night. Then upon retiring once more close your eyes & let your mind dwell upon your vision for five or ten minutes or until you fall asleep. Let it be the last thing in your thoughts as you become unconscious. 10. Every time you are awake during the night call the mental picture before you & keep it in consciousness as long as you remain awake. 11. In the morning, immediately upon awaking, repeat the procedure set out in the third, fourth and fifth instructions. 12. The more of your spare time you spend in this way, the more promptly will you actualize your ideals. By repeated concentration, every detail of the image of your desire will be so deeply engraved upon your mind as to exert an influence throughout the day. It will inhibit wasteful emotions and impulses. It will give you poise and self-possession. It will so inspire you with its promise as to awaken an energizing response in the profoundest depths of your subconsciousness
I'm wishing you well and sending love your way. Hope this helps, Warm Regards, and thank you for your question.
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