Do you think i am close to a breakdown..?

Question:

my sis just died 2 weeks ago, but i've been feeling like this a long time before she died, it is just getting worse. i am thinking lots of negative thoughts, I feel stressed out and aggravated, little things irritate me, i work from home, and lately i can't put in enough effort to work, I have been watching tv a lot lately, which is not usual because i am a reader and i don't even feel like reading, there are a house full of people here all the time, i haven't slept in my own bed in about a year,(i sleep with my mother), most of the time i am unhappy, my family gets on my last nerves and i can't even get along with them, what is even worse , my sister that died, she barely came around, and they tell me it is my fault she didn't want to come around, because we argued about little things such as clothing , and i am constantly reminded of how no one likes me, for whatever reason, but i could care less about that, my main problem is that i am just fed up and i can't take it anymore

Answers:
Sounds like you need a boyfriend or some friends. You need to get out of the house and have some fun. Do whatever it is that actually makes you have fun.

People don't stop coming around their entire family because they have beef with one family member. That's one thing you definitely need to know. And the whole blaming you for your sis not coming around is definitely signs of that as well. You're the scapegoat for everyone else having to deal with their issues. So just do what I do when you feel bad. Have some fun. Go to a park and take a blanket and just sit down and take a look around and enjoy the day. Grab some friends and go play something like paintball or anything that is a group challenge.

Some people are going to tell you to see a shrink. They are probably going to prescribe you anti-depressants because of what you exhibit. I don't beleive in taking pills so I feel that everything can be overcome at a personal level. You just have to be willing to deal with all of the issues affecting you and not just part of it. I hope this helps you.

you need medication for depression and also grief counseling. sorry to hear about your loss.

close? sounds like you are in the middle of one. Find a human that you can talk to now. someone from outside that you can trust. Do not go this alone it will only make things worse.

If you feel you are having trouble coping with your loss, you should seek help. Whether it is from friends and family or a medical professional. Talking about things can help a lot. Also, remember that it is not your fault that horrible things like this happen. Think about what she would have wanted for you, and do it.

While medication can help, I do not recommend it unless absolutely necessary. Find someone to talk to and remember it is ok to cry!

Good luck, pull through this! :)

First, let me apologize for the loss of your sister.

Secondly, I think you should seek the help of a psychologist so you can discuss with him or her why are you feeling the way that you are. If things aren't resolved from there, you should see a psychiatrist (sp) and he or she can prescribe medication to enhance your mood. Maybe you have a chemical imbalance.

It wouldn't hurt to start writing in a journal. If you feel that you can't talk to others in your family about your feelings, sometimes getting them out on paper is as effective as speaking to someone.

All in all, I hope you get the help you need. Because no one deserves to be so down in the dumps.

Good luck!

You are not having a break down. You are grieving,and that hurts a lot, very depressing,I went Thur something similar when my mother died,(she was only 50).I could not concentrate enough to read so I watched TV instead (sound familiar). Your family should not tell you it's your fault that your sister did not come a round much. All sisters argue, and it is always little things like clothes, you took my purse or perfume ect, You should look in to taking a grieving class,(yes they exist), It does not make less pain full, just helps speed up the time, and helps you with the feelings of guilt,(which you do not need,nothing was YOUR fault!! ) I am hoping the best for you.

You have a lot to be worried about. I am really sorry to hear about your sister.
Don't feel like you are to blame for her not coming around. Sisters fight. It's not unusual. It's normal.
I have felt the same exact way you have been feeling. You can overcome it. You will need some help though.
I didn't take medication because it made me feel worse. If you feel as though you need it try it. Medication is not a cure all it is something to give you an extra push but you have to be willing to pull yourself up and out. It takes effort.
Get into therapy. It really helps and is not just for crazy people like some think.

oaky. it is time for you too see a therapist. what brought all this out is your sisters death. what i am seeing is someone with low self esteem and someone who is being mentally and emptionally abused. you do not say how old you are but whatever age you are you need to be sleeping in your own bed at night, not with your mother. you are not the cause of your sisters death. siblings always argue about one thing or another but you don't see all these other siblings dying. at least i see from your question that you are in a fighting mood.GOOD. to me that means that you are going to come through this alright. but please seek help and seek it now. you really need it. GOD LOVES YOU. you are not alone. remember that

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