What "Choice" do you have if you are 'UNABLE' TO CARE for?
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put them in a hhome if you cant take of them
send them to shady pines.
Many brain damaged people are better off in a nursing facility where they have acess to professional staff 24 hours a day. It would be a hard decision to make but I see it as impossible to do this at home and maintain your home and your expenses.
Not to mention that daily care would be hard to handle alone.
Check in your area for a place that works with folks who are in need of care. For instance, I live in the Grand Rapids Area in Michigan and I know of a place that people can go to called Network 180. They will take a look at your situation and asses the help that you need. In some cases, the help might come in a form of an aide that comes to your house every day (you wouldn't pay for it), maybe a day home where you could put a person so that he/she could be looked after during the day or maybe setting something up where they could be put in a facility that is just a place for special needs individuals. To begin with contact your local mental health facility and see how they can help you. Explain your situation and keep at them if they don't help you. There has to be something that people can to do assist you so that you can work and your loved one can be cared for too. Good luck and let us know.
peace to you
I'm really sorry. there always seems to be a lot of guilt involved when making this kind of decision.
you have to ask yourself some questions first of all. I'll give you some examples to try and help. ask yourself,
1. am I able to take care of my loved one at home without
neglecting them, my other family members, or myself?
2. am I going to be able to do everything that I need to do and some of the things that I want to do?
those two questions are probably enough to help you make the decision that you need to make.
when you're trying to care for someone who has severe brain damage you deal with mental and physical stress day and night. and most people just can't do it.
my mother and uncle had to make the decision to move my grandmother to a nursing home due to advancing alzheimer's disease. I know the decision was very hard for them, but she needed to be watched carefully due to wandering off in the middle of the night.
if you decide that your loved one could be better cared for in a nursing home or health care facility, don't feel guilty. just do your homework, and find the best facility that you possibly can.
ask a lot of questions. there should be no restrictions as to when you can visit, how long you can stay, and there should be no problem if you choose to take your loved one home with you for an afternoon, a week, or whatever you choose.
I sincerely wish you the best.
You would probably be better able to cope if this person were in a nursing/care facility that specializes in this sort of patient. The brain damaged person would be better off in such a place also because of skilled nurses, aids, therapists, etc. being there to help them. Check you local telephone directory or call a physician and ask for some referrals.
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