How do I help my schizo mom, when she doesn't think she needs help?
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Although it is hard, it's an illness and it is important that you don't take what she says too personally. She probably doesn't realise what she says sometimes, so when she calles you names... you have to find your own way of dealing with it and not let it get you down. Ask a doctor or a close family member to maybe talk to her and make her see that she is ill. It can be hard for people to accept that they are not well, even though they know it deep down. You do alot for her but its important that you do things for you as well, like going out with friends and getting away sometimes to take your mind off things. Maybe some one else in your family can help out. The best thing you can do is just be there for her and let her know that you care and if she ever needs to talk then you are there to listen. A doctor can give you much more advise about this sort of thing and suggest things that can help you both. Maybe it could be a good idea if you occasionally went somewhere together when you have some free time.. getting her out of the house will do her good! Good luck.
Find some love and understanding and go from there
if she has a Dr...call him/her for help...if not, see if theres a mental health clinic that you can call for help. Unless she gets violent the police can't Baker Act her (72 hrs hold in the mental ward). You can try getting her in a voluntary hold, if you can get her to a hospital...
Otherwise you're pretty much stuck, unless you can get help from your family or friends..
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Hopefully you have another family member you can go too. I am 38 now, but growing up, my mom was like yours too. It was hard, but I had brothers and sisters to help. Just know, there is nothing you can do at all...focus on school and work, and know that your mom is seriously mentally ill...and needs help. It is not your responsibility. If she is in danger, or you are, don't hesitate to call the police and have her arrested, that will begin the process of hospitalizing her, and hopefully get her the help she needs. I have been there, I promise you.just don't lose focus on your life in the process!!
I think right now you need to help yourself and find a school counselor or a counselor through your job. Do your research and find counselors for low incomes or students. Contact you local hospitals social service dept. You need to take care of yourself.
I am in almost the exact same boat with my mom! I do not live with my mom but she is going crazy and when I beg her to get help she says I am crazy. My mom sits and stares into space and pulls her hair out strand by strand all day! I would call her doc and a few close friends of hers to make them aware. I also heard I can go to the court and ask the judge to serve her papers to get "blue papered" into a institution to get help because she is mentally ill. Not sure if you can do this or not but worth finding out for both of us! Best of luck!
get her a therapist
Make her hospitalized. I am not rude. actually I am in your mothers shoes. When she starts to feel better (even one single bit) then she will get the motivation to do something about her health. Is she on any kind of medication? If yes then you have to be sure that she takes her meds regularly. I am so sorry for the pain that you are dealing at this age. Try to be strong and don't let it interfere with your life.
Good Luck.
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Honey I am sorry for all that you have experienced with your mother. I know that it is difficult, and pretty much feeling as though you're limited on helping her. It's not healthy for you to be mentally abused by her with her rants, and cruel comments. It's not healthy for your mother to be cooped in the house, she needs social interaction with others. As someone suggested call her psychiatrist, you may even have to have her committed. I've been down that road with my own mother. If she doesn't go willingly..go to the courthouse and have a petition drawn up that she's an endangerment to herself as well as others. The judge will sign the Petition and the Police will escort you and actually pick her up, and take her to the hospital. It's not pleasant..But I've had to do this..when my mother refused treatment. The important thing is for your mother to get her medication, and usually they recover quickly after the meds.
Join a support group, and also take care of yourself. People really don't know what you go through unless they've been done this road. It's difficult when it seems as though it's a non ending ugly cycle.
Here's a piece of wisdom for you..Take care of yourself as well..There's only so much you can do. Your mother has to want to also help herself. Lovely has no clue what she's talking about. I got a lot of bad advice dealing with my mother..A lot of people who acted as though it was a walk in the park, when they had their trials they fell apart. So love yourself as well. People can talk the talk..but they can't walk it.
You can have your mother committed to receive her medication. The hospital will only keep her until she's been medicated and mentally stable (no longer than 3 weeks) . So the petition doesn't mean she'll be permanently institutionalized (I wouldn't wish that on anyone) With a petition you only have to write the things that has you concerned about her behavior, and how it could be harmful. You need to really talk with your siblings, and you all come to some sort of agreement. But you did say she's Schizophrenic, how can you conclude that without a diagnosis? You can email me if you want to talk further.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It must be extremely difficult for you to work and go to school.
Unfortunately, you cannot force a person to get help. They have to WANT to get help for themselves. The only option you seem to have is to do well in school so you can someday move on. If I were you, I wouldn't label her as being "schizophrenic", unless you're a psychiatrist. It sounds like she is suffering from depression.
Focus on you and your education. This is a temporary situation. Try to find other places where you could hang out so you don't have to be around your mother. Wait until she goes to bed, then go home. You don't need to stress over her. She is choosing to let her problems go untreated. Don't go down with the ship. Save yourself.
honestly.
Ask your school.. like teachers. tell them to keep it confidential.
Ask them for help.
If it gets worse than it sounds, tell someone that can help, because honestly, if she's a threat to anyone, including herself, she will be put forced to use medication, and if she refuses, she has to go to a mental hospital.
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