Do you actually like yourself?
Question:
sometimes i realise i just hold on to and remember the bad things about myself
i think also i have let myself go a bit since being ill and i am actually seeing it now
i try to be a nice good person but it always seems to come back to me in a negative way
like if i didnt try to be so helpful perhaps people would actually like me more
is it off putting to others if people seem too friendly or eager to help others i dont really understand this as i thought it was only polite to be helpful
what about you do you think you are a nice person
Answers:
I'm overweight, it's getting better every day, but it's still bad. I'm losing my hair, and what I have left is all grey. I've got a puggy nose and blotchy skin. Sometimes I have a bad temper. I'm very lazy often, and I often don't treat my loved ones as well as I should since the love I have for them is go great. I talk about my co-workers in a mean way often. I often don't help when I know I could, and I sometimes push my help on people when they don't want it. I am sometimes a hypocrite because I say I love all mankind and teach others to have that attitude, but secretly sometimes I'm thinking people get what they deserve. and yet, I can say that I do actually like myself. For the first time in my life, I can say that is true. And the reason is that I have accepted that I am human and therefore flawed, and I also know that I am doing the best that I can at the moment, and am striving to do better every day. If I hate myself, I have no choice but to hate everyone around me. The more I care about myself, the easier it is to truly care about those around me. However, I have also learned to care for others with detachment. If they don't like me, I don't care, unless I see that I have hurt them in some way. If they do like me, I am grateful, but I don't gush all over them and drive them away. I accept all the love that comes to me with joy and I smile and am okay with it when I'm getting hatred towards me too. Because I've been there and I know those people that are hating towards me hate themselves and so I feel bad for them. So I go on being as nice as I feel like, and trying not to ever be ugly towards someone and I find it gets easier and easier, especially when I am accepting of whatever I get back from others, good or bad, and don't take it too personally.
yes for the most part
i used to be but not no more!
awwwwwww it's just sometimes people don't wanna be bothered with you're a very nice person really, and lots of people like you but..these days people have no class or sense of humor..it's not you..it's them
i would like to add you cuz i like nice people <3
mz.deguzman
I'm working on it...
I hope to one day say that I do actually like myself.
I do try to help others as much as possible, but I don't like people who take that kindness for granted.
I am content with myself.
No not really but am working on that I think it only has to do with the fact people put me down a lot at school and always tell me am not worth a dime or y should he like u i mean look at u or it suck to be u and i will say no it does not they will say yes it does just look at u thats y i dont really trust people and it really the reason y i used to cut but the people who would say that 2 me at school were people who did not like me i dont know y tho.
At the current moment I really don't like myself. I haven't been nice all day to anyone. Is it Tuesday yet?
I say things like that to myself also, like I only try to be nice so that people like me rather than I am a good person. I tend not to like myself much at all.
There are things that are good about everybody, it is difficult to see and accept them (I have this problem), it is also easy to twist them into a negative about yourself (again I am guilty here).
Yes,in the end I do like myself.So what if there are bad things there?So what if I come up short.I am not trying to.
There is no one that is without flaws.I have made peace with that.
It can be off setting to people if they percieve you as overly intent upon helping them.They may think that you have ulterior motives or that you are a busybody.
Just give them space and do not be percieved as smothering or anything.
Your a lucky girl ,to have good times you can hang on to ,all my memories are of bad times, so keep smiling and being nice to others because the world needs people like you ,and if some of them don't like it then "sod them" its their loss not yours .God bless .
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