How can I cope with the pain of this?


Question:
My mom has finally had it with me... First she got an eviction notice for me... She hasn't let me come to see her in about 2 weeks now (also calling the cops when I've came knocking on the door and having me cuffed) and just today she told me on the phone that she got a restraining order against me... I now live about 40 minutes away from all of my friends and support ... No job, No car, just me and my dad in the country in a 1 bed house which is also a big change... (I'm from the city)... I'm also a depressed drug addict/alcoholic... How can I cope with everything? I feel so lonely, abandoned, and hurt inside... Male, 19 years old... Should I goto a teen challenge maybe or something?

Answers:
I am so sorry this has happened to you.
Is Teen Challenge like AA (alcoholics anonymous)? If so, I think that would be a great place for you to go. You would be around people your own age who have the same or similar problems that you are dealing with, and you would have the companionship and support that you desperately need. If Teen Challenge is not like AA, go to AA meetings. They are incredibly healing.
I think going to a well respected adult would be the best thing. Maybe try contacting a church or a counseling center. You need to get some help quickly.
wow that sucks. i would say get a job and save up money to go to school and move out if you arent in school. go to church and try to find who you truly are. you dont need a jerk like ur mom! try to enjoy life and try new things. get a haircut or anything that will make you feel changed. it really helps! hope i helped some and good luck!
Yes I met alot of people who had the same problems as you and they went through teen challenge and are doing very well today.
The success with teen challenge is better than most programs.
You need to invest and sacrifice for yourself your family loves you they just won't enable you to continue your life pattern If want your life and your family back what do you have to lose compared to what you will gain a future
That is alot of Tuff love. I would think that drugs and alcohol did nothing to change your feelings. You need to restore your mental and physical health. the best choice is not always the easiest. Learning to stand on your on two feet is not always easy
grow plants, nothing like gardening to make some new friends. You can even give them names.

Also start using face book the internet and learn to drive and a way to make some money, also keep in touch.. 40 minutes is quite a distance .. you may like to try and make some new friends.....

my advice is don't go see your Moum,

Also I'd try and be smart with your words cause the FBI etc.. may be interested in tracking you as a known drug addict, maybe they don't do that, but if I was them that's what i would do to get new intelligence.


Also working out and being intelligent learning martial arts or yoga or something might help and keep your mind off drugs, when you get more metaphysical.

you might meet some people in a group of course, it could be as effective as Nympho's Anonymous.. there are other groups too, which may vary in your area.. like swimming or toasters etc.
I am a mother of 7 and I know how bad it can be when a child goes in the wrong direction. I can see your mothers veiw point but I also understand yours. I try to use empathy in these cases, that is your heart in my hands. Drug addiction and alchol addiction is something that can sneak up on you quickly and it doesn't do anything for family or friend relations. why did you get addicted ask yourself do some deep self examination. You are depressed could this be the cause of your problem? has something tramatic happened in your life? Are did it all begin by just trying to have what some call fun? Whatever reason you need to really seek some professional help. Don't be ashamed they are trained. Find a mental health hotline and talk to someone I don,t know your area but most areas have somewhere to call 24/7. Your reaching out for help and thats a good sign but really, follow through with it. For yourself and your Mother. Likely thats her reason for making you leave,maybe this will wake you up to soberness. being sober is a good life. I know right now you may not feel like it is but it takes time to heal just like any other illness. Your not alone in this that will help you to know as well. There are many 1,000s all over the world that share your problem. Its not unique. You must be taught coping skills, I know you can do it. Its all up to you how soon are how well you will do. really commit yourself to getting healthy, I m rooting for you! You can get better this moment in time by saying, "I,m going to get help first thing, right now I,m beginning my road to a new life now because I love myself, my mother and my family, I,m going to change." Start now. Good health to you.
Sober up and enroll in the military.
I've been there...

I would suggest exercise/sports - as much as possible, every day. Running, biking, hiking, martial arts, dancing, etc. Just move as much as you can - it helps.

Eat lots of fresh, healthy food - turkey, fish, bananas, veggies, fruits. Take multi-vitamins.

Find someone to talk to who won't judge you. AA is okay. Healthy friends are better. A counselor, LCSW, or psychologist will help a lot.

The drugs and alcohol will make the depression worse - can you cut down a little?

Good luck!
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