Untrusting Issues, Jealousy and Anger. Where to find help?
Question:
This is a difficult situation for me and I would like you to be as serious as possible about your answers.
I think i have an untrusting issue in my personality. Overloaded with Jealousy that leads me to fabricate some "stories" in my head and basically ruining my relationships (only happens with those relationships i consider SERIOUS EXCLUSIVE DATING).
I thought i didn't have a problem but someone made me recently realized on some facts and behaviors i am going thru and i must admit i need some kind of Professional help to figure out where this problems starts, what triggers those untrusting judgements, assumptions and accusations.
Does anyone knows what's the best help i can get on this? Psiquiatrics sounds like too much for me, maybe psichologist? i don't know. I just want to fix myself 'cause this is becoming a living hell.
Thank you.
Answers:
Yes, please get some help. It's good that you can admit to having a problem.
I was involved with a man with some personality issues similar to yours when I was 21. We didnt last over a year because his jealousy, lying and cheating made life unbearable with him. I'm 23 now, and i have heard that he was in a serious relationship, and that it also turned to crap because of his issues. He and his new girl split up 2 months ago.
It seems like if you don't get help now, you might repeat a cycle of behavior that could ruin future relationships. You should get counseled by a licensed psychologist. I would not see a psychiatrist because they will try to prescribe you medications that will only make your situation worse. You dont need medication, just counseling. Also try and get some self-help books on the subject. If you can't get counseling, at least try getting a book. Below is just one book of hundreds that came up on amazon.com.
You are smart to address these issues now and I am glad you are willing to admit that you want help.
There are community counselors that may be listed in your phone book, there are usually county offices that offer these services. Call up and ask to get started...please check into it, for your own good, k?
See your primary care physician. They will better know where to send you.
Companies usually offer helplines for their employees, you should check that out also.
It's a little dangerous to try to figure out where to go since THIS is the web and things might be interpreted differently.
I do urge you to see someone NOW. Good luck.
me nd my wife was going through some times where she did not trust me at all because of some things i had did in the past but we went to a marrage consler i dont now how to spell it but any ways it worked out for us we have been married for 10 yrs now
You are very intuitive and willing to make a change. I think you will be just fine.
Here is what I recommend, and this does have something to do with it, I would look up Darren Brown on You Tube and then after you get what he is doing, look up NLP.
You are actually in control of altering your behavior through simple mental exercises on your own.
Psychotherapy may be appropriate for you. You don't mention whether you have health insurance, so I'm providing a website that may help you locate a psychotherapist in your area http://www.psychotherapist.com/.
Read about psychotherapy, what it is intended to treat, and what you can expect, at http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/psychothera...
What is a psychotherapist? What training do they have? Read about this at http://www.mentalhealthchannel.net/psych...
Psychotherapists do not (in most states) prescribe medications; psychiatrists are medical doctors who can prescribe.
Good luck to you. I have never met someone who wouldn't benefit from a little counseling. We all have our problems, large and small!
You say psychologist or psychiatrist sounds like too much for you but it sounds to me like that may be exactly what you need but why not let another professional be the judge...Go to a medical doctor and tell him / her whats going on with you and let them refer you to the appropriate place..in the meantime maybe you could try to find an EMOTIONS ANONYMOUS group to check out..similar to Alcoholics Anonymous but they deal with emotions rather than alcohol..hope this helps and gives you a little direction;
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