How to overcome fear of people not liking me?
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What are you, a human postbox or something ?. Did you ever stop to consider that the reason that you have so few friends is that they couldn`t stand to be around such a WUSS ! ?. So what if you offend people ?, that`s LIFE !. People come to this life to learn, not to spend it wrapped in cotton wool. You really need to get your head out of your **** and start living - and for YOURSELF, not for OTHER people !.
if they dont like you tell them to fu.ck off
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Read No More Christian Nice Guy... You don't have to be Christian to benefit from it. Might help you realize you don't have to be a wuss.
make it a goal to be the first to step forward and say hi while extending your hand to shake====also when walking down street ,just say hi to people to get yourself used to the idea of talking to others
Well it sounds like a symptom of a disorder I suffer from; social anxiety disorder. You may wish to see a therapist or else work on changing your beliefs by repetitively telling yourself that people like you.
Ah thats sad. Should they have a reason to not like you? If no, then just be yourself and I'm sure you'll make more friends! Good luck :)
I used to share that fear. I eventually decided that I will never have everyone like me. In fact, I know that at any one time there are people who definitely don't like me. There is no chance that I will ever have all the people like me all the time.
And realizing that took a lot of pressure off. I am now able to concentrate on the relationships that really matter. I'm not a huge fan of people not liking me, but it's not the all-encompassing thing anymore.
Hope that helps.
First, you need to learn to like yourself. Then you should learn to get "outside" of yourself and not be looking inside yourself so much. Go out and get involved in some group activities, particularly volunteer groups working to help people or "the world" When you find people who share your interests, you will learn to talk with them, and even become friends with some of them.
You merely need to come to the realization that, far from loving or hating you, the vast majority of you don't give a damn about you one way or the other. This is not meant as an insult to you -- the simple fact is, most people are too wrapped up in their own concerns (or feelings of inadequacy) to give you that much thought.
Remember the compliments you've gotten.
I suggested you do person positive affirmations about your character. You have more going for you than you think. It's working wonders for me and I have a lot of friends and I'm basically a shy person
Maybe you should talk to the doctor. Their are several drugs to help with inhibitions like this. Not that I am suggesting this as a perminant solution but it does help and you can learn from it when you do decide to stop taking the drugs. It's all about confidence.
I know it sounds trite, but it's very true: Until you like yourself, it will be really hard for you to see how others could ever like you. Take some time to sit down and figure out what it will take for you to get to a point where you can love yourself. Once you reach that point, you will no longer fear the disapproval of others, and you will start behaving in healthier ways toward others, ways that will naturally attract others to you.
I've found life to be much simpler since I stopped giving a rip about what everybody else thinks. Get yourself a dozen personal contacts that you can identify with (friends,family,work) and to heck with everyone else.It is sort of like children having too many toys to play with - they are unable to enjoy them all and can't develop any appreciation for what they have.Concentrate on your circle,propagate those close relationships and you'll be rewarded personally for it.
Hypnotherapy is probably one of the best ways to cure a phobia.
Your phobia has probably got a name, have a look at this list of phobias
http://www.hypnotherapistregister.com/ph...
You will find some helpful information on the following link.
http://www.hypnotherapistregister.com/fe...
Or you can download self help hypnosis from http://www.hypnosisdownloads.com/?879...
Good Luck
you don't value yourself enough. you have a right to your opinions and to express them .Yes you should always be polite but if someone still has a problem then its their problem not yours. Don't know if you are Christian and I don't want to be pushy but he had that one line
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
that people, is a guaranteed friend-maker. it never misses that when you treat people with the respect you want to receive, you start to get it back from them.
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