Teen Suicide?
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First of all, please accept my condolences on the loss of your nephew. I had a very close friend commit suicide and it affected a great many people as he was a recovering addict who was part of a large extended NA (Narcotics Anonymous) family. I had never felt more helpless and I remember thinking to myself, "What could have been done to save him?" This sentiment was echoed by a great deal of my friends as well.
Then one of my best friends told me why his death was so difficult and I hope this helps you. You and your family are incredibly devastated because you have no closure. If I have a family member killed by an individual, I can blame the one that killed them. If a family member is struck and killed by a drunk driver, I can blame the drunk driver. But who do I blame in a suicide? No one. There is little that you or anyone else could have done to prevent his suicide. His very life, and his death, was at his own hands and here you and your family are to pick up the pieces.
There are no words I can say to express my sadness over your loss. But I can and will be there to listen if that will help. As to how to prevent the same thing from happening to others, that's a healthy way of turning grief into action, but take as much time as you need to grieve first. And then, do what I try to do on YouQA.com s. Share your story in the hopes that a suicidal teen just might listen when you tell them that they are fighting for their lives. Again, accept my sincerest condolences on your loss and you will be in my thoughts and prayers as you struggle to come to terms with your loss.
toughen them up so that when they have some problem they dont puss out and kill themselves.
I think it starts with having a closer bond with our children. Spending time with them everyday of thier lives so you know exactly what is going on with them and these things will be noticable. If we spent more time with them then they probably would not even do these things as much. I look back at my childhood, and I think my parents did the best they could. They worked hard and supplied me with everything I could want and gave me a lot of love, but in a perfect world we could have spent more time together. One day we will die or something bad may happen and none of these other things will mean anything except family and love. Now your nephew is gone and I bet you wish you would have knew him better and spent more time with him. Why did'nt you? Because we live in a world where a lot of us are forgetting about the important things. I'm sorry for your families loss, that sucks.
First off, sorry about your loss, but I think I'm a good person to answer this question. I'm 15, with a history of anxiety, depression and 3 attempted suicides. So for help...Don't ever make someone think something is wrong with them because of what they feel. Wanna make them feel even worse?? What helped me was talking to strangers about my problems, even if that sounds weird. The Boys & Girls National Town Hotline was great for me. Talking I think is the best help. Not even necessarily talking about problems, just normal interaction. A counselor helped me.
Recognize the symptoms. Don't take talk about suicide or death lightly. Take note of abnormal behavior and seek help when there are ANY signs that said teenager is thinking about suicide or may be depressed.
Let teens know that you care. Listen to their feelings. Let them know that they're not "just another teenager" feeling "normal" teenage things. Even though changes in behavior can be associated with hormone development, it is best to not take chances in such cases.
Suicidal and depressed teens (or even children and adults) are usually very good at covering up how they feel. It must have been overwhelming for you to be left with so many unanswered questions. Chances are, you never saw it coming. I'm truly sorry for your confusion and loss.
hmmm let me love you.. suicide idea will disappear from your mind :P
We can love one another.Teen years are confusing enough, so much peer pressure, combined with parental expectations...all feed by T.V. , music and the media...I can't help to think if anyone at their worse emotional moment could still feel the love of another, that could make the difference when contemplating suicide.
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