Is anyone suffering from loneliness?:(?
Question:
Believing that "everyone else" has friends
Feeling embarrassed and self-conscious
Being in a crowd but not feeling part of the crowd
Feeling shy and scared of others
Experiencing low self-esteem
Feeling angry, defensive and critical
Feeling socially inadequate and socially unskilled
Being convinced there is something wrong with you
Feeling disconnected and alienated from your surroundings
Feeling anxious and sad because you believe that no one knows how miserable and isolated you feel
Losing your capacity to be assertive; feeling "invisible"
Feeling reluctant to attempt to change, or try new things
Feeling "empty", depressed, or even contemplating suicide
Answers:
Hi. Unfortunately those symptoms seem like a little more than plain loneliness... it sounds like you have self-esteem issues, lack of confidence and depression amongst other things. I too have suffered from several of those symptoms, although not all at once.
It might be worth speaking to a doctor to find out if you suffer from anxiety and/or depression. They can cause many of the feelings you mention. I would guess than loneliness stems from something like this.
If you prefer to steer clear of medication, or the above are not the problems, there are several things you can do to help yourself. (These have worked for me in getting over PTSD, anxiety and depression without medication).
- Read lots of books on developing positive attitudes... the way you think can be changed and will have a dramatic effect on the above problems. Most of the above can be caused by negative states of mind which can nearly always be overcome. Positive affirmations are also useful. (I recommend an Anthony Robbins home study course - worked absolute wonders for me).
- Take up exercise if you don't already, eg. going to gym, joining a sports club or dance class. This will help with the social concerns and stop you feeling self-conscious.
- Connected to the above point... learn to love the way you look... you can help this by changing the clothes you wear to ones that make you feel great, getting a new haircut, etc. (Good for making you feel more important and getting higher self-esteem and confidence).
- Plan goals and targets in all aspects of your life for the next weeks/months/years... allowing yourself to truly dream... you may find you want a more rewarding career or would be happier living elsewhere, etc. Solving these sorts of problems will give you purpose (eliminating that empty feeling) and leaving no reasons to feel embarrassed of yourself. Live your dreams.
These are just some ideas I've used to change my life around in the last few years. Following some of these ideas found me my perfect partner and healthy new son, a fantastic own business working my own hours, and the chance to live at the other side of the world recently to experience a whole different culture whilst saving money and living a wonderfully exciting life, so different from how I used to feel.
Good luck and feel better soon!
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These sound quite a lot like the "symptoms" of adolescence.
Sounds like something everyone has felt before who dont feel like that and if you say you havent your just lying
call suicide hot line for help. do not isolate, get out of yourself. call your doctor for your depression.
well.. of course.. everyone does.. but you dont have to suffer for a long time coz you dont want to stress yourself out.. youre the only one who can cure yourself.. just do sumthin that wont remind you about being lonely.. i know it only works for a while but its worth trying..
yes I feel like this too
every single one of them ecept -- Being in a crowd but not feeling part of the crowd
i really do not have any friends.
i lie to myself all the time, just to make myself feel better.
no what doesn't kill me makes me stronger...
these are all symptoms of not being alone enough in the present moment
loneliness is the opposite of that
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