What's best for my situation?
Question:
I'm 18 and can't drive because my parents won't pay for my insurance because I can't get a job even though I'm trying as hard as I can. I've had 2 interviews already, both of which I thought went excellent but then I got screwed out of both of those jobs.
The thing that's killing it most for me is the loneliness. My parents remain distant from me, especially my dad, and my sister is always off with some other guy. There is absolutely no substance in my life.
Before you get on my case about it, I'm not emo or goth or any of that stupid crap. I realize that people have it way worse than me all over the world.
I just can't accept the fact that I'm here, alive, not being able to do anything with my life.
Answers:
You should get out more, don't stay in the house. even though you don't have great friends, just go out hang by your self and think. does some good.
Hit the gym. Work out, feel good, and check out the girls while you're there.
Maybe, You should go see a professional, instead of talking about it on here.
While your trying to find a job and it sounds like you need to get out and about why don't you look into some charity/volantary work.
And how good would that sound at an interview that you are currently doing charity stuff until you find the right job for you.
Your mates aren't that interested probably because your not and its hard to be around someone that is all doom and gloom.
Get down the job center - look online for something you would really like to persue and send your CV and a well written letter to everyone you can. email it and post then, call your mates see what they are up to, get in the bath and go out - have a laugh.
Best of luck.
I'd recommend doing some volunteer work for starters. When you put that on a resume or application, employers will be more in tune with giving you a chance to work. Depending on where you live, you might even be able to get assistance with transportation from the city to help you get to & from. Keep the drive & go for the next two interviews, then the next two after those. It may take a long time to find somewhere to work, but once you get there it will make you appreciate the job all the better.
You control your life.
I don’t blame your parents for not paying for everything for you; do you know how expensive insurance for a kid your age is? And you wouldn’t truly appreciate it unless you paid for it yourself.
I know you don’t want to hear that, but it’s true.
Instead of giving up because things aren’t “perfect,” get off your behind and get out of the house. Go for a walk, ride your bike, help the neighbor weed their garden…anything. How can you make friends who WANT to be with you if you are boring and sit alone all day? How can you expect to be happy when you refuse to do anything to make yourself happy? Do you want everything handed to you on a silver platter? Are things that bad? Have your parents dies, your dog ran away, you’re homeless, and quadriplegic? If not, then you need to stop being so pitiful and do something to make yourself happy…not wait for someone else to make you happy.
how about getting into som psychotherapy? or go back to school? or go find a youth group at a cool church that knows what teens go through on a daily basis...get off the chair and away from the computer, start walking around town...learn to be comfortable with yourself and then maybe people around you will be comfortable with you too...but if you don't lik you how can you expect anybody else to...and coming from someone who has lived on both sides of the suicide issue..its the easy way out...the cowards way out...it takes more courage to continue breathing than it does to end a life that hasn't had a chance to live. Ask your Dad why he is so distant from you...ask him to have a meal with you where you cook it...I can understand why your parents won't pay for you, you are an adult now. Fast food, mowing lawns, delivering papers, temporary day jobs, there are all kinds of opportunities for young people to make money. You just have to get off your unmotivated rear and do it. It is harder to do than it is harder to say...but that is still the answer, you have to "just do it" good luck. When you are really ready it will all start happening for you...
I have felt the exact same way as you. Recently, my best friend ditched me to go out with my brother. I feel alone also, but I am just going to have to let it go.
Honestly, I probably have the exact same problem as you do, being lonely. I hate social events and my mom thinks I'm ruining my life by never participating in those things.
I just wanted to let you know that you aren't the only out there that is feeling like this.
NOW, call a mental health clinic or psychiatrist's office. Doesn't matter which one--use the Yellow Pages. Tell the person that answers that you are suicidal. When they ask if you have a plan, say "Yes." This person has an obligation to get you immediate help regardless of your ability to pay. If for some evil reason, s/he doesn't come through, call the next name down the page.
What you have is treatable and this level of misery is limited in time. (Think the flu--you feel like c**p for days and slowly improve. In depression, the c**p lasts longer, but you will get better --2 years left alone, 3-6 weeks with treatment)
When I was depressed (unrecognized, undiagnosed) I went to a bunch of interviews that didn't pan out; after treatment, I was normally successful. Depression saps your energy so it's hard to look like a promising employee. This will get better.
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