Help! I am gay but I've been taught that its wrong so im hiding this secret and its causing tons of.?
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i hate saying this, but being gay is still not accepted by most people. find friends and people of like thoughts and have fun but be normal everywhere else. my cousin is gay and he's out and it hurts to see people treat him different or laugh behind his back. he says he doesn't care but i know differently. even his parents. well you have to do what your heart tells you.
why worry over something you cant change
get over it! if you want to be gay, then be gay! good for you! it's certainly not helping you if you are trying to hide it from everyone else. who cares what everyone else thinks? jump out of the closet before you end up hanging yourself in it.
if there are people who can't handle the fact that you are gay, then that's their problem, not yours. all this worry is not doing a damn bit of good for you.
look honey people do not like straight people - i call my self straight i use to worrie nope no more ---some people will like you in life some will not there loss who do not like you for being gay and who you are-i learn'd hey they do not pay the bills or buy me a pack of tolit paper so why should you worrie you swing a little when you walk swing on darling be you it will eat you alive if you keep worreing what the next might think you were taught it was wrong but they are probably doing wrong to -cheating on the spouse or drinking or abusement you never know ---be you love you hell what people think THE CREATOR DID NOT MAKE JUNK and you are not junk---so love your self be you like what you like and be happy ----the public is not paying your bills or makeing you happy you got to make your self happy forget the public thoughts
See a therapist! Find a qualified christian therapist, work through your urges. It can be tough, but you can get through it. My boss has many very feminine traits, prissy walk, and gestures. He has a fine family with a nice looking wife. Those feminine ways done make you gay! Only the things that are making you ashamed, make you gay. If it feels wrong and depraved, it probably is. Get a "real christian" therapist they can help guide you.
If you come out you might feel better. Its hard living a lie,that could be causing your anxiety. Besides you don't lie to your friends ; ) If your friends and family truly love you they won't care, they should just want you to be happy. Besides this way you'll be able to find out who your true friends are.
It's not easy, but its worth it in the long run.
Good Luck
come out come out whoever you are! :P
Are you certain that your sexual orientation is the cause of your low self esteem?
Maybe you do need some help talking it out with a professional, with the focus being on your lack of self confidence. The sexuality issues will just iron themselves out naturally from that.
I can't help thinking that making a person hate themselves for something that they are born to, is more of a sin than being gay. It's like making a dog hate itself for not being a cat ...weird
Trust the people who like you and make you happy. Walk away from people who are destructive towards you. Life is a mystery ...no one has all the answers, no one has the right to judge another (c;
Ahh well,
Stuff them, I mean you shouldn't have to change for others just cause your not what they want to see.
I don't stop and ask them to take their hiddious hoop earings out because i don't like them, i may say to mum, eehhggh hate them, but your a human being ad deserve to be treated fairly. i may not of liked her earings.. so!
I have a disabled brother who's 6 he has sooo many problems, he makes noises in public, shouts, shreiks, people look at us angrily, but my mums smiling, and says to them, " look he's autistic, Get over it, or are you to young to understand" Or she says she needs a t-shirt for him that says "autistic" lol
I think if you have a positive atitude, nothing bothers you:)
Don't be afraid to say " im gay, got a problem??" to people in public, they are all human, and have a weak point.
I have learnt to laugh at these things my brother does, And i give evils to poeple who stare
Any way
GAY PEOPLE ARE COOL:)
for the first couple of times your self consious of going out, go out with friends so your not so afraid.
hope this helps,
though it may not be as good if its from a thirteen year old
yep thats me..!
just be yourself. i know i like people who are them-self. don't worry for as many people who won't like you there will be twice as many who love you like family.
Just be yourself. the truth helps more than hurts in the long run
It still bothers me that our country was built by so many different people coming to America to be free of persecution and yet it still exists on so many different levels. This being one of them. You are an individual and regardless of how you were brought up you are free to choose your own beliefs. Everyone is supposed to be equal. I know however that not many people are as open as some. Its about self love and if you are not comfortable with yourself then people will not be comfortable around you. they wont know how to act of what to say? Never be ashamed. I had a friend who was going through this and I was the first person that he told. I think people talk more about the way i dress than the way he does but we keep our heads held high and do whatever WE want. Its your life and your world. Stand up, talk with someone, and be confidence. because when your confident and comfortable with yourself the rest will follow. youll hit rough patches but who doesnt. Good luck
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