Why do I never learn from my mistakes?
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Please only genuine answers to this question, as I feel low :-( and don't need to hear any rubbish. Sorry to rant on! xxx
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oh my you are in a bad way try not to be so hard on yourself we all make mistakes goodness knows I've made a few and still gone back and made the same ones again, but believe it or not you are learning from them one day something will click and you'll just know you won't do it again. you sound like a nice person but you'll never please everyone so please stop trying. put your mistakes down to experience draw a line in the sand and start from now, when someone wants you to do something you don't really want to just say nicely but firmly no I'd rather not. you are not upsetting anyone and they might think twice about asking you again. hope this helps your in my prayers.
You need to be more specific.
What mistakes have you made?
People typically keep making the same mistakes because they don't learn from them or they don't make a real decision to change. If you really want to change you have to make an effort. You need to write down what it is you don't like about yourself and then come up with ways to change it. A counselor or therapist can give you great objective ideas on how to become the person you want to be. I would love to work with you through this tough time in your life.
YOU NO I NO WHERE YOU ARE COMING FROM BUT SOMETIMES ITS BEST TO KEEP MAKING THE SAME MISTAKES OVER AND OVER THEN HOPEFULLY YOU WILL LEARN SOON OR LATER. SO JUST PRAY ABOUT IT AND ASK GOD TO REMOVE SOME OF TOSE MISTAKES.GOOD LUCK!!
I think we all feel like that at time. I got repeatedly shafted by the education system and went back again, like a fool, to do an MA and guess what? I got shafted again! How silly can you get? I wouldn't worry about it at the moment, when we feel low we are weak and make mistakes. Just try to chill and improve your state of mind before trying to change anything.
oh hunny dont talk about yourself like that things are sent to try us. your just going through a rough patch you will get through this just think positive dont be so hard on urself
Sounds to me like you're not a bad person, if anything you may be a little too selfless. You say you make the same mistakes, do you mean that the mistakes actually are the same, or that the consequences are the same i.e. you suffer in some way?
If you've just come out of a rough patch then spend some time reflecting on it, and on what got you into it.
You speak of wanting to better yourself, is that because you don't think highly of yourself or is it because you strive to be the best person you can be? If it is the former then you will never feel like you have bettered yourself even when you have, and improving your self image is something you need to work on. If the latter is true, then you need to be patient and allow it to happen by continuing being a good person, and remember that acting selfishly occasionally is not going to make you a bad person; there are times when you HAVE to act in your own interests, even if it has negative consequences on other people.
Change happens slowly, very slowly. We all have bad times and low points, often as a result of our own mistakes, so you're not on your own and it won't be constant throughout your life, not if you don't want it to be. But you have to be strong and believe in who you are.
I've been there.. in fact I think we've all been there. I joined a self help group and did "The Artists Way" - it was a life changing experience and the best thing I ever did. I've made the most amazing group of friends who are now my "ya-ya sisters".
Good luck and remember to take time out for yourself, that's another thing you have to remember and DO!!
The fact that you are aware that you are doing it makes it seem like you know it is a mistake and you shouldn't do it again, yet you do. Maybe its something deep down inside that makes you put others needs before your own or something deep down inside that makes you want to make your life miserable. I sometimes get that impression for myself as well. I seem to always give myself the hard way out of some situations. Like I somehow need to prove to myself that I can do it or prove to someone else.
I'm gonna hug you
*hugs*
and never be affraid to tell about your mistakes.
its good to open up. it helps.
You are learning Sophie, albeit the hard way, do not despair, you are a good person, that is why you are upset by whatever action you now regret,remember every day is a new beginning, do not dwell on past mistakes.
There's a proverb, the man who never made a mistake, never made anything.
Thankfully, it applies you lasses too.
You've answered your own question, you make mistakes because you feel pressured and want to keep people happy.
Sad truth is that you can't please all the people, all the time, so stick to just doing the right thing, rather than the thing other people want ou to do.
Living for others is OK, but you gotta be real about things, sometimes you gotta put your hands up and say "the hell with you, I'm going my way".
Now, suck it up, make a list of what you think you've done wrong. Memorise the list, now flush it down the toilet. Sounds crazy, but you'll feel better, now, wake up, and don't make those mistakes again! Stand up for yourself and have the balls to say no to people.
because you yet to admit that you make those mistakes. REally admit and accept that those are mistakes and watch out for those manuvers in the future.
oh, its alright. take a deep breath every morning, say to yourself a soothing prayer, n live eveyday. it helps to pray n ask god for guidance. it really does. keep your freinds close, only the true one's who understands you. and ur parents. never forget that they're there. trough think & thin, they are. look at the positive sides of your life. think of things that has made you happy, not the negative things. never focus on negative things.. it is not right. i hope what i said has helped you, bcause im speaking from my heart. i know what it's like
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i have been trough that, am am still going trough that.
take care, n keep in touch. if you need anything, please feel free to ask more questions..
god bless you.
Hi Sophie Yours is a big question and hard to answer with so little detail. Sometimes it is safer to keep on making the same mistakes because it means that you don't have to change. Change is scary and can feel chaotic. However, change can free you and prevent you from making the same mistakes. Keeping a journal, over a 10 year period, has helped me no end. The other key to improving your self esteem is to be yourself, and like yourself and treat yourself. Don't let other people define who you are. Just be yourself. You sound like a lovely person and I wish you well.
But you have just learnt. =). You have just reflected upon yourself.
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