I've less confidence. please share your tips to improve it.?
Question:
speaking in public, i suddenly loose my concentration and i've less memory power tooo.. this keeps me away from my friends.. i am totaly lost.. please help me..
Answers:
hey its not such a big deal to boost ur confidence first believe in urself and then try to see those one who r lower then u and then you can gain confidence that there are many pepole from which i m better and then target the upper one to tackle,
and abt speaking do u know that the best speaker of all time indira gandhi couldnt speak in front of any body and then she tried it in a vacant room and finaaly we all know wht happened next.
so impossible is nothing,just do it.
Talking with a professional, will help.
You have to open up, so choose someone you will be totally comfortable with, even if you have to go through a couple before you find your match.
Self Confidence plays a huge role in our lives. Fortunately it is something that you can improve by practice. I have a few tips:
1- Like yourself and accept the way you are (as an example like your handwriting because it is unique. If it is not readable then try to make it more readable rather than changing it)
2- Put nice clothes on and have the makeup that makes you feel pretty and attractive
3- Be active in the fields that you know you are really good at them.
4- Accept your mistakes and learn from them rather than blaming yourself. Everybody makes mistake
5- Tell yourself that you are very much worthy and you are good in your relations, work, etc (maybe several times a day)
6- Choose some topics that you like and you have knowledge about them when you need to speak in public. (You even can practice some speech when you are alone)
Good luck
ocd's tips are good. I'd add this:
Confidence has many sides: social confidence, confidence in your body (athletics, music), and all these sides are of the same cube. If you don't have confidence, you'll feel anxious about the shame you expect to feel when you enter a situation. As you feel anxious, your attention and memory will decrease, and you might not "perform" as well as you want. Then you'll feel shame again. Rinse and repeat.
That said, I've found three things that help my problems: (1) walk through the situation in your mind, before and after it happens. Identify what went wrong. Feel those bad emotions, and let them pass. (2) Make sure your body language is good. Keep trying to have good posture. Move with confidence even when you're unsure. Breathe. (3) Do yoga and lift some (light) weights. (Or heavy, if you want). Muscle power makes you feel more lithe, attractive and personally confident.
Good luck - it'll pass with time. This has worked for many different things: social problems, performance, confidence, etc.
* Love yourself and know that you're worth as much as others and that God loves you in spite of your past or your flaws.
* God gives everyone gifts (things you are good at.) Share your gifts with others. You will receive many compliments and shine brightly.
* Use writing as a way to express yourself..there's healing in writing
*Join a support group (ask a mental health provider)
* Always try to look your best..do things that make you feel good as well (hobbies)
* Try some volunteer work, something that you love to occupy you..what's your passion? This is the area that you will excel if you speak in it..do it in public..volunteer to be on the speaking commitee to overcome your fear of speaking in front of others. Not many people can do this with all the attention on them. Know your subject inside out..if you're speaking on your passion it will come easily. Make sure you practice, and then try a mini audience. Your adrenaline will be pumping..but once you finish speaking..you will be so proud of yourself. You can do it..This is a great confidence booster.
Or at a support group
Speak on yourself..write a mini speech if you have to highlighting things you want to say. It doesn't have to be anything long..once you do..they may have a hard time getting you to stop talking..lol you may really be good at this. Once you feel comfortable you'll be okay.
Also try seeing a psychologist if you are experiencing panic attacks. There are medicines to help to calm your nerves. Peace be upon you in Jesus name.
Hi! One thing that I think really helps with confidence is getting involved in something...any kind of activity...especially one that you believe you aren't good at. I think, as you continuously work on it, you will become better and better. If you achieve something that you think you never could, you will start getting the mentality that you can do anything. Nothing can stop you as long as you set your mind to it. Hope this helps!
Take up a hobby.
Go walking early in the morning or whenever you can during the day! (take your music along if u go alone)
Look in the mirror and smile often.
Sing in the bathroom.
early to bed and early to rise.
Its the little things that will take you the distance!
All the best.
Confidence is something that you will have to find within your self.
Now having said that, what you will need to do first is write a list of things that you don't like about your self. Usually people feel as if they are the only ones with that paticular issue.
This isn't true.
Google each "issue" and see how others got past it. What did they do?
Then go get a makeover.
Get you hair and nails done. Don't be afraid of change.
Get your skin done, if you are female go get your face made up at several different makeup counters.
Buy a new perfume or soap.
Get a hobbie, What are you good at, What do you want to learn.
get a corset...trust me you will not slouch...not to mention it will look darn good.:wink: ok get some racy undies too...
Find some new music and start memorizing the lyrics.
BUT MOST OF ALL
Find a FRIEND...
~h
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