Learning how to be myself?
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This is a lot more common than you realize, and I don't think you sound foolish at all. Confused maybe, but not foolish. Please keep in mind that God created each of us as unique individuals. If you do not have peace in your heart about your behavior, then you are not being who God created you to be. The people you spend most of your time around are the people you will act like.
Bottom line: stop trying to be a people pleaser. Live to please the Lord. He has a plan for your life. Don't make it harder than it has to be...it's really very simple. I realize that peer pressure is a mighty force, but the reality is, those people that you see at school every day won't be in your life forever, so you have to do what's good for YOU. It takes a lot of strength and courage to say "NO" to your peers - and real friends won't try to bully you into doing something you don't want to do or being somebody you don't want to be. If you don't have peace about something, don't DO it!
I hope this helps. God bless!
Sounds like you're asking a lot of deep questions for a young person, so I'm guessing you already have your own personality. Nothing wrong with wanting to fit it, but I think you'll want your own style too. As you get older that will be easier, and have fun finding out who you are. I didn't choose my present career till my 30's, and my musicial tastes still keep changing, so you're a work in progress till the day you die I think. Best.
I had this problem when I started high school. I was myself for so long but the school I went to everyone was so preppy and gross so I started to try to fit in just so everyone didn't talk about me behind my back. But I woke up one morning and realized how retarded that was. So I seriously just started looking at all the aspects of my life... like the music I listened to, the people I wanted to associate myself with... and then when it all came down to who I was it sort of played off naturally. I didn't think about impressing anyone or fitting in. I didn't have the most friends in high school but a lot of people ended up respecting me. I would definitely recommend talking to a counselor or therapist because they can help you evaluate these sort of things, and understand that you don't have to be crazy to see one, they will definitely help you out and won't think you're weird at all! i hope it ends up working out for you. :)
I recently had the same problem! I stayed with all of my friends who were really immature and wanted to fit in like you used to feel...I finally left my friends and started to hangout with a lot of other people who belong to totally different social groups. Take the time to do what you want.find things that you are passionate about like any kind of sports the arts? Try making new friends...this can be really refreshing when different people except you for who you are!
Wow that is how iam. I am SO SHY! Sometimes I find out things I like or dislike when I talk about what types of guys ilike or foods. There is quizzes you can take if you go to google and search it can help you discover who you are. Maybe you can go see a phyciatist(no offense) she/he can help you figure out things. A lot of people have trouble figuring out them selves. It takes time. Good luck and I hope you can find your true self.
learning how to be your self is hard to do i sometimes i difficult time getting to know myself all i know is love your self first before you can love anybody else.
you have already made the step to further your identity by not following others. Just be you ! I know it seems simple but that is all I can say !
So far it sounds as if you are being defined from the outside in. Try the opposite. Quiz yourself on every aspect of your life's preferences, from entertainment and relationships to spirituality and favorite books, etc. That's a simple task, but what's very important is that you consider whether or not the answers you give have anything to do with what you think others would think of those answers. If any of your answers could begin with the phrase "Others would think I was cool if I did [your answer]" then quickly re-evaluate the question and think about it from a personal perspective. What do YOU like/think/believe/do?
I sit down and chose to sit there until I came up with something that was me. basically meditated and realized I am what I am and finally I know what that is. good luck
Stand up for yourself, and don't be afraid to show the world who you are. There's only one you, so that makes you unique..not a carbon copy. All the people who are trying to fit in to avoid peer pressure will eventually have to face themselves and admit who they are. Either you're a follower or a leader..my mother always told me it is better to lead. You will know who you are by doing the things that you enjoy. Others may not have the same common interests as you..but you owe it to yourself to find happiness in things that please you. Best of wishes to you as you learn to lead..and set the pace for others.
Don't be a people-pleaser..you may end up cheating yourself while pleasing others.
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just be yourself .. dont worry what others think
Do you know the Lord. If you do know and love the Lord, you will accept His opinion of you only . WE dont need the esteem of the world. We need Jesus Christ to know us and love us, and show us who we are. STudy with other Chrsitians that seem to live like you think a Christian would live, as loving ppl and fun too. Get a Bible and begin to study. God will show you all you need to know. WE arent less than anyone, or more than anyone in value. WE are all differnt and we are to be ourselves. Once you know that and you are confident, you know you can talk to anyone about anything. Why fear what they think?? are they perfect or what? Just be you, ask ppl things about themselves, be sincere, and show them you as you are and the things you like, etc. Dont worry about fitting in. ONce you are confident, not arrofant, ppl will flock to you to know you. Confidence is very attractive. Ppl are rarely drawn to someone with little self exteem.
Ask GOd who you are and what your personality is. See what you like and dont like. It will all come to you. Dont be so hard on yourself. You are not less than anyone on this earth, not one, and anyone that thinks so is already less than you, as they are full of pride, which is never of God.
WE are all created equal and once we truly KNOW this, our life changes. Let us know how you do.
I hope you have a faith in God. If you do you should know that you are His child and are of infinite worth. "Being yourself", then, should be finding and doing the things that give you the most self respect and that honor your parents and give them respect. Trying to impress others with some artificial behaviors or cool actions or clothes or posessions doesn't make real or lasting friends. Finding your real self will take some prayer and pondering on the things that really excite you in life and give you joy and happiness. Nobody else can really decide for you who you are and what you want.
If you find those things that really interest and excite you, and try to develop those hobbies and talents, other people with similar interests will naturally gravitate toward you. Just be yourself. Don't try to be somebody you are not. If you are shy, find somebody you can help and be kind to and come out of yourself by concentrating on another person and what he might need.
The way to get friends is to be a friend.
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