What's the best way to overcome shyness and gain confidence?
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i dunno , just try to not focus so much on wat ppl think of u and just loosen up... screw ur rep
I agree with the first kid but drugs are bad, don't do drugs.
Although, I found that after I began drinking and doing drugs, I became an outgoing person when I used to be shy and barely talked to anyone. Hmmm.
Find something you love and are really good at it, like a sport or hobbie, do something you will be really proud of.
psychiatric meds can be useful..maybe a drug such as klonipin combined with paxil
How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
by Norman Vincent Peale
The power of Positive Thinking
also by Mr. Peale
and remember
"as a man thinketh in his heart so is he"
The Bible
Good Luck and God Bless
learn martial arts and whatever comes up that needs 1 person to do u go right up.
go up to random people and say nice to meet u and shake hands. they will think ur weird but u will gain confidence from that since ur shy not of them laughing at u.
if someone asks u a question and u dont know it, say anything. say it firmly and in a loud voice.
no one really cares how u are, u just me new people.
Take some psychology courses... seriously... or read some self help books. Otherwise plunge yourself into social situations no matter how awkward you feel... and eventually you will feel more comfortable. I also say, find some cool and funny friends to get you out of your shell.
Also invest in hobbies (healthy ones) that kinda scare you. Like a martial arts class for instance! When you achieve the things you have fear over, then you gain more confidence.
"Fake it 'til you make it!" Seriously, I was very shy when I started college. I befriended an outgoing girl across the hall(who has now become one of my best friends) and I literally mimicked her behavior. She had a way of just walking right up to someone introducing herself, and starting a conversation, something I could never do! Then I tried it; it was scary at first, but eventually I got comfortable with it and now people are surprised that I was ever shy!
Practice you will find yourself. Give it time. In the meantime remember "birds of a feather flock together." You will meet other shy friends.
breathe all your inhibitions in... then let them all out.
do not think that everyone has eyes on you; it just ain't true. act like no one's watching, so that you don't feel self- conscious.
make positive friends.
don't spend your time thinking about what others might say about you. live your life your own way and give it your all when doing so.
Start small, grow slowly, be honest and trusting, live happy, seek excitement, throw yourself at what you love and fear the experience of fear itself.
lol...there is no way other than time and experience...I was shy for the first 26 years of my life..after enough b.s. i realized that women can smell insecurity like a dog smells piss.My fav. quote is "false confidence is better than self-doubt"..dont worry about time,or being alone, shyness is actually attractive to some of the ladies...they mis-interpret it as "Mystery" which works to your advantage as long as you dont expose your insecurities by talking too much.TRUST ME
Read "Your Erroneous Zones" by Dyer.
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Seek others who are commonly in the spotlight and try to emulate their styles.
Join a TOASTMASTERS club.
Toastmasters is a global organization that helps people to improve their communication skills and increase personal contacts. - The values of Toastmasters club involvement are many-many more than I can explain in a single answer.
My own experience as a Toastmaster has helped and still does help me "reach outside the box" in which I had securely packaged myself after graduating college (1983.)
GOOD LUCK with your growing endeavors!
Again, someone asked this. You have to have mind over matter that you have to talk to yourself and shift you mind. Read books that are based on confidence.
Do things that make give you one step at a time to confidence, baby steps.
Every day tell yourself that you are confident and not shy I can do it. Every day try to do something that makes you not shy like strike a conversation at the gas station/super market. Once you start you wont want to stop. It is a skill once you think of it differently that you can and ill overcome.
Slowly take risks in conversations. Don't obsess about the stupid things said in the past, and try to remain light and engaging in conversations. You'll have to force yourself to do it, but you'll notice a difference in your confidence level with time.
I am a therapist and social anxiety is very treatable. Pick up "10 Simple Solutions to Panic" or the "Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook". Also find a therapist who practices CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy).
SLEEP WITH THEM! LOL
Just kidding... little ice breaker. First, are you the shy one? If yes, then casually ask a co-worker (male or female) to " help " with a problem you are having with an assignment, that you know how to solve. This breaks the ice, so to speak. If you know someone like this, then remember that you were not always so graceful and composed. Start a conversation about anything. Sports, TV, Music, or Movies. (Harry Potter is a great convo starter). Just try to be a friend.
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