Does anyone have advise for a wife who lives with husbands abusive bipolar disorder?
Question:
Answers:
I am not a doctor, but the study of psychiatry/sociology and human behaviors has been one of my passions.
If I were you you, I would go to the link :
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/...
Read it carefully. Bi-Polar Disorder is not characterized with control or envy.
The place that has the most knowledge of what to do, and a list of all resources you might need, is the shelter for battered women in your area. They are familiar with the differences in psychiatric disorders and behavior disorders.
I am not saying your husband is not Bi-Polar, but I am saying that there is another issue, it seems, and you are being affected by this abuse.
Get. help. Good Luck !
I am in the same boat as you my husband is the same way. i have learned that when he gets upset it is the worst so i have learned to stay out of his way and do anything and everything for him because if i dont them i know what will happen all i can tell you is make him happy
Oh god! I am a woman with bipolar disorder, hearing you say that just made me gasp.
I feel so bad for you, I can't give you any advice but I hope your husband regularly sees a therapist and takes medications to control this, no one has to put up with it but sounds like you love him. God Bless. ♥
Why do you stay? Get out. There is no reason to stay and be abused. That's ridiculous.
It's only hurting you----and if you have kids, you are letting it hurt them, too. Yes, YOU are letting it hurt them.
LEAVE HIM.
cut him loose, he's driftwood. divorce him stat and be sure to get every cent.
You need to call up his psychiatrist and tell him/her what is going on. The meds are not working. See if you are eligible for some kind of social services person to come to your home. If the marriage is always bad, I'd get out if I were you. I'm bipolar myself, often really bad, but I try to apologize after even tho I am humiliated, and I'm only bad during PMS, usually. When I have mania I think everyone is stupid and I want it my way, I dunno if that is what you mean by controlling. But my overall personality is really good, my husband tells me. Soooooo you have to look at the long run.
Some meds could make it worse. For me, Ambien, Ativan, Risperdal, Seroquel, and Benadryl all made me very very angry, plus I couldn't control my behavior. I was always smashing things. That problem has totally gone away after my husband figured it out.
Maybe he needs placement in a group home for a few months, til he works thru this. There are a lot of married people living in group homes for awhile, a social worker would know about this.
All the best for you!
More Questions & Answers...