Why don't I care for myself? I have really low self-esteem?


Question:
I have an eating disorder and am very promiscuous and self-destructive. I don't care about my life? And then I wonder why I have so many problems and can't make anything work. How do I get self-esteem and self-respect back after I worked so hard to get rid of it and screwed myself up? I hate living this way. I want to do meditation and self-reflection. What is the best way to learn to love yourself after a terrible time with an illness that makes you hate yourself? THat is all I have known. I want to live differently. I am in therapy but it's not going all that fast. I just don't know anyone with as low of self-worth as I have. Help! Thanks for your answers in advance and please don't just say..get help..because I am. I'm just looking for some opinions from people who may have been in similar situations.

Answers:
The first thing to remember in your case, is that you are a person of worth. I personally know that it is so much easier to believe the bad than the good. When I was in the hospital for my eating disorder, the nurses had me write positive things about myself onto post it notes and put them all over my room. I didn't believe any of them at first, but seeing them everyday for two weeks made me start to entertain the notion that the words on the post its might be true. Deciding what to write was the hardest part. So what the nurse had me do was ask some of my friends what they liked about me (since I couldn't talk to that many people outside of the unit i asked the other people who were in the hospital with me). They said things like "You are an honest person" and "You always try to smile" or "You are beautiful inside and out". It sounds really cheezy, but it does help. Just like it took a while of hearing the bad things to belive them so deeply, it will take time for you to start believing what the post its say. Also try writting down three things every day that are good about you. To be honest, I hated this and it was the hardest one for me to do, but it does work. These methods of positive affirmation, combinded with somthing spiritual like meditation, journaling, or prayer will likely help. I also strongly urge you to seek help for your eating disorder, even if it's just a therapist or a doctor who specializes in eating disorders, or even a nutritionist. I go to all three and they are what keep me afloat sometimes. Best of luck, I'll be praying for you and God Bless.
you have to understand that you were meant for great things. everyone has a purpose here. i had a lot of issues with depression and all of that. i never talked to a professional, but started to write and do things like art, photography. i was able to express my feelings through that stuff. its a little dark- but it helps me feel better. you should cherish yourself- you are worth it and shouldnt be so hard on yourself. im the same way, sometimes i think i sabotage myself. i have started to tell myself that i am in control and in order for things to go how i want them to i need to be positive and make it work. you can do anything and be anyone you want to be if you want it bad enough. dont give up! love yourself and people will love you too. it all starts with you. dont let the world get you down. you deserve to life a great life. if you ever need someone just to unload on send me an email. i have no problem listening. im really good at that stuff.
This past year I happened to take a holistic health class, which is the treatment of mind, body, and spirit. In class we spent time meditating, learning tai-chi, and the amazing health benefits of social support. It has changed my life and after two years of isolation and lonliness I am slowly learning to live again. I also recommend a great video called "wholistic wellness for the hip hop generation" by Supa Nova Slom which has some great advice on purifying your diet.
Try praying and reading the Bible (New Testament). Once you realize how much God loves you, you'll feel better about yourself.
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