When I talk to someone I can't concentrate on what they are saying.?
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omg thats the EXACT same thing that i do i feel ugly all the time and even though i am married i still get asked out and hit on by guys all the time but just like you ill be talking to someone and im thinking to myself.sre they looking at this? and when anyone looks at me in public im always thinking they are looking at me because i am ugly so it does make it hard for me to concentrate on things too. A way i try to build self confidence is keeping up my apperance dressing nice wearing makeup and jewerly always brings out your features to where they look a little better atleast in my opinion. Even though we feel ugly all the time i guess we must not be too bad if we get hit on plus like me im pretty sure your friends tell you that you look good all the time....but trust me i knoe it doesnt always make you feel pretty oh and another reason why its probialy hard to concentrate is maybe its attention defenent disorder (hope i spelled that right) its where people find it hard to concentrate on certain things, but i am very glad i ran across this question because its exactly how i feel. If you want you can be my friend on myspace if you have an account its sassylilbiatch02@yahoo.com you can look me up by that email address my profile is private but just send a message so ill know who you are and we can chat sometimes ;)
Oh hunny get over it.
stop thinking about your own self. what they are talking about may be important n they may need your help. which is much more important then how you look like when your listening to them.
be a friend. be there.
dont be stuck in your own head.
That's because you are not interested in them. If you were truly interested in them you would care about what they are saying. All guys want the same thing and it is sex.
then take control of the conversation...ask a question, get the answer...then keep going with more questions...don't under estimate yourself...
I used to be that way too, but then I started to see a therapist. Now I think I'm pretty hot...lol Get some help otherwise it's going to ruin your social life more then it has! Good luck and best wishes!!
I think you might have a social anxiety disorder. Go talk with a counselor for ideas on how to handle this. good luck!
I have this problem, but it's not really because I'm concerned what people are looking at..I just have a hard time staying focused. You should do some meditation or something that will help you focus your thoughts so they don't end up in a train wreck. It also is just good for your mental well-being in general and maybe you can start feeling better about yourself.
We all have insecurities, but we all have wonderful qualities too. Pick out the good things about yourself and focus on those instead.
u probbly just have A.D.D. or something ask ur doctor about being tested.
The 'oh, I'm so shy syndrome'.
You are focusing on how you feel rather than listening to what others are saying.
Everybody else is focusing on themselves too! They don't have time to think about how you feel.
They are too busy thinking about what they are going to say next.
They are too busy thinking about what they look like.
They are too busy thinking about when they will be washing their hair next.
Besides, you are only having a casual conversation. It isn't a test or anything like that.
Just smile when they talk and play the game of word association. When she does I colored my nails last night. You say oh nice or neat or whatever. Then , You say what do you think about the color of my shoes. Thern She says I just bought a new pair last week.
You get the idea.
Relax and you'll make lots of friends cause they will think you are a good listener.
Have fun.
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try www.more-selfesteem.com, www.selfgrowth.com helps. i will help you thru dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. u need to feel good. i get like that too.
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