Will the way I feel change? I had a very bad experience with a professional man?


Question:
a couple of months ago.He was in a position of trust & ended up exploiting me when I was vulnerable. He did end up openly admittiing what he'd done , the rest of his colleagues at the time tried to back him up so he'd keep his job & because of this my life fell apart. Only recently have I got some support from people who know he was lying.

What has happened now is that I have been left with this immense sense of hatred towards a particular race of people [which was never there before]. People who I now regard as being deceptive, greedy, self-serving, only interested in elevating themselves socially and economically at the expense of others and lacking in morals.
When I see people from this race I experience a sense of absolute repulsion, fear . worry.. and I think in my mind "Yes if you had the opportunity you would do the same as it is in your nature as a race".it is hard to really explain.
All I know is that these feelings were not there before this person did what he did..

Answers:
If you truly become a racist, he wins. I agree with those who say you definitely need to get some counseling from a professional. You have to put this hatred behind you and get on with your life in a positive manner. Good Luck!
I don't blame you one bit and it's perfectly normal. The best advice I can give you is that you should really see a councellor. You need to get over this hatered. It's not good for your mental or physical health to feel like this.

It's going to take some time to get past this. Things won't change over night but please see someone who can help you deal with this properly.
This is 'way beyond Yahoo!Answers. You need a serious professional therapist to talk things out with. It should be possible for you to find a female therapist who is not of the bothersome race.

It may take some risk and effort on your part, but it should be possible for you to heal from this, eventually.

I'm sorry. It should not cost you anything. But it does. I hope you find what you need, and come to feel okay about it in time.
You are experiencing a trauma.
1) You can see if you can take legal action, like getting the person arrested for whatever was done to you. You may be able to get Victim Witness money, to pay for your therapy!!
2) Go to a therapist who specifically does EMDR therapy. It's a type of therapy that gets you over traumas in 1-10 sessions, pretty guaranteed. You will not need to re-live the trauma, but you will get over the ill effects of it.
3) Contact "60 Minutes" TV show, about the drug they talked about that helps people get over traumas quickly, too. I don't know if it's the experimental stages or is in use, yet.

Good luck!!
hate the sin not the sinner,hard iknow but the whole race are not responsible for one ArSehoLe it works for me and i don't beleive in religion.think of it like this maybe every time you feel like that, that wA nker wins a bit more
You can't blame everybody from one race for the actions of one person !!There's good and bad in every race you found a bad one that's all !! Time should help heal your wounds and a good person you can trust and talk too!! Best of Luck to You!!
Let me first off say to you I'm so sorry about what happened to you. This person is a pig. and you feeling of exploration was not addressed and sadly it had destroyed you life in the process. But Know that the feeling that you have are Natural. I also had an bad experience with a person but he was an religious leader, so In turn I do not want to have nothing to do with the religion that he belongs to and no other religion. Know that this person that hurt you does not represent that whole race of people. My advice for you is to try to see and talk to someone about your feelings. Look at it a book you know it there but you do not have to read it everyday... Time does not alwys heal.. but it does make it better... good luck
I would seek counseling.
There are nasty people in every race.Unfortunately you had a bad experience with a few from the same.Look on the positive side,he did own up, therefore making his colleagues look exactly what they are.lying,vindictive morons whose word can't be trusted.
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