What should I do ?
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You sound like you do know that the new change in your thought process is a good one, and admit that you are happy again. There will always be thoughts entering your mind that you have no control over, and just keep practicing your 'new' habits. Soon, it will become your nature to think this way, and it will seem less and less like a burden to you. As long as you are happier, then keep up the new way of thinking.
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it honestly sounds like you're living a little too much in your head. go out and get involved in a team sport (or some regular social activiy people will expect you to attend regularly.) the less time you have to mull things over, the less important these things will seem.
You need to look at the things you think about. I had the same problem. My new train of thought makes me ask myself "How important is this thought" or "If I don't act, will someone get hurt". I have changed so much in my thoughts in 2 years.
give your new way some time to settle in and try to just except the thought and not take action on it
I hate to be the one telling everybody "go to your Doctor and get drugs" (especially since I'm a chiropractor) but maybe you have an anxiety disorder. Apart from that, go to a Chiropractor and at least you won't have a screwed up back to go with it.
Continue to hold on to the good thoughts.
Try to surround yourself with positive people only if all possible.
I had someone once suggest wearing a rubber band on my wrist to snap if I had negative thoughts. It didn't work for me but it might work for you!
Keep embracing the new habit for 30 to 40 days. It takes that long to make any change of habit permanent.
Good luck.
Hmm i know you probaly dont want to here this but this really helps,You should get to know God and read the Bible,Gods word has all the answers for you in it.
I am not saying you dont already have him in your heart because i dont even know you but you should say a prayer and ask him into your heart.
This has worked for tons of people who has had struggles in there life.
If you cant accept him or believe in him that he can take these things away than why accept and believe all the other stuff in this world. Dont hate yourself,it is not worth it.i have gone through the same thing.
change takes time and support from friends or even support groups helps too.
therapy is expensive and you need to find someone good but that can help .
cognitive behavior skills can be learned form books too.
Internet or library
actual reading in a book works better.
change the thought. practice. that's what its all about.
get involved in the politics that are heating up and you wont have time to think about the small stuff too much.
i was at an obama training all weekend .. no time to think about anyhitng else...
and feel a part of soemhting much bigger now too.
and last let me say
change is good ,so good for you!
i am sorry to hear that bothering you and its certainly a big torment. Yes life is certainly full of challenges, crisis and frankly until an old man of age 80s pass on, he will never know if he will live his last moment in tragic. Thus seeing others in much difficult situation than us, we must be grateful at least we still can make a difference to our own life and hopefully to help others in return.
As such realizing that life is always full of up and downs, do keep your mind positive no matter how negative a situation becomes. I too is having a hard time when a girl i like seems to be drifting away (or i am just too sensitive?). But being a believer of God I know He is in controlled of everything and i shouldn't feel insecure but instead to spend time on other useful activities instead. After all i did many wrong things that led to her wary of going further with me, thus i should refrain negative thoughts.
It is not easy but do remember that negative events are not meant to crush us, but something good gonna happen if we take active steps to remedy the situation. Take control of your life :)
Hi loveag,
The meditation is good and helps a lot to reflect on the real you. I don't think you should feel bad for having certain thoughts if they are out of your control. I have several thoughts a day that I would consider "bad", but then - that's not me it's my subconscious and I just make a conscious and effortless decision to continue on with life and the thoughts pass.
If you're putting effort into stopping thoughts then I think you might be going about it the wrong way. Have the thoughts, but just think of them as nothing - because that's what they are, nothing - just a passing thought and nothing more. You are only accountable for the thoughts you choose to dwell on and interrogate.
Good luck! You can contact me by E-mail if you need to chat.
Cheers
NiceFella ;)
you know what the thoughts you used to have were bad and got you in serious trouble just ignore them
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