What should I do?
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at least you haven't resulted to alcohol. and please don't take that as a suggestion. you need to talk to someone about your behavior and get help. what you are doing isn't healthy. you shouldn't be hurting yourself. what I want to know is if your boyfriend sees you doing this why isn't he stopping it. he can't care about you that much if he just stands there and watch. since he seems to be the root of your problem i would break up with him. he may have emotionally hurt you too much already.
if you aren't already seeing a therapist please do. i don't mean this in a negative way but i think a professional could really help sort yourself out when it comes to your relationship anxieties. they will be able to assess if what your feeling is normal or if you have a chemical imbalance in your brain and need some kind of medication to help you deal with stuff. often times they can talk you through the root causes of your anxiety/panic attacks so that you become familiar with what your triggers are and how to avoid or confront them without acting out of line. outside perspectives often can catch many things that we on the inside just aren't clued into.
You have made the first step.
You realize you have a problem and you are asking questions.
Harming yourself can be very serious. If you can not seem to control it, then I would suggest getting your doctor to refer you to a neuro-therapist or cognitive therapist.
By now you are aware that it is your thinking that is giving you the problem.
Positive thinking is not the entire answer.
What you need to do is to set yourself some goals.
If you want something bad enough you will do everything to get it. Focusing on what you want will take the focus off how you fell.
Then every day do something to moves you toward your goal.
And bit by bit you will get everything you want.
Having set a goal you now need to train yourself to think differently. We are frustrated if we do not accomplish what we want. We feel anxious if we think we can do everything we think we are expected to.
Take a deep breath.
Start by remember a time when you felt very confident about what you were doing. Really get into and feel it all over again.
Now take those feelings and apply them to what you are doing today.
Take another deep breath.
Do this several times a day.
Remember to be grateful for what you do have. Be thankful for the breath you take, the roof over your head, the bed you sleep on. It is more than many others have.
Go for a walk for 30 minutes. Smile at everyone you see.
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