Do you ever really get over losing your mother?
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I'm sorry for your loss. You were very young to lose your mum, and you'll always miss her. My mum died in 1995, when I was 36. I've got grown-up sons, and my mum would've been so proud of them. I'm just so thankful to have had such a lovely mum,and try hard to be like her.
Think of the good things about your mum, and the values she instilled in you.
I've never got over the loss of my beautiful 13 years old sister who passed away so early in her life. When she was dying I begged that I may be taken in her place, but it wasn't to be.
the hurting will go but the memory of your mother will last for ever.♥♥♥.thing of the good times you had with her.
Most people don't loose their mother or whatever they know exactly where they are
be it Jar or Ground they ain't gonna go any where once they die
Try looking back before she was mis layed and remember the good things you shared with them that is what lasts for ever
It's a natural thing, you are still grieving. I don't think I would ever get over it if I ever lost my mother.
My grandmother grieved for her mother for 34 years. She used to talk about her with great love right up until her own death. I'm sorry that you lost your mother at such a young age.
I lost mine last mother's day
I was 26 years old, when my mother passed away on May 11, 1990 I never thought I would overcove grief, but somehow I learn how to cope over my greatest loss, I sure miss her a lot.
No..My mother died recently and i miss her..my dad passed away when i was 14 ..( i,m now 44.) and i still miss him...you never get over the death of a loved one..be it parent, child , or sibling, spouse...love knows no end..
my mothers mother (my grandmother) died 3 years ago, and my mother is still suffering from it. my mother hasnt still registered the fact in her own head that she is even gone yet.
since my Grandmother died my mother hasnt been right, or herself, and not been able to live her life like before..
its all about understanding & accepting the passing over, because if you dont accept & understand that it is someones certain time to 'pass over' then you will never move on.
and we are all on this Planet to live our own lives, not to dwell on the past/lives lost. sounds harsh, but its the only way i think people can get over there loved ones who have passed away..
im so sorry about your lose by the way
***Angel's blessings for you***
just realise that you are going to be one day reunited with your mother again, and her spirit is wit you always, caring for you in Spirit. you just have to become aware of her..
*blessed be*
Jo xxx
I can't tell you myself, but my friends lost their mother when 1 was 7 and the other 6. Then they lost their step mother when 1 was 14 and the other 13, their dad just got married again. They never got over losing both of their moms.
I think you learn to live with it. You were really young when she died so it mat take a bit longer.
no, you don't...I have not been able to get over the loss of both my dad and my mum...I miss them, wish they were here to tell them things and laugh with them again.
its hard, the pain does go away eventually, but the yearning for them I think goes on for the rest of your life cause they were always there for you and then they were gone, I was in my 30's when dad went and my 50's when mum went...I was lucky to have them as long as I did I guess considering how young you were.
My mom is 65 and she still cries over losing her mom which was about ten years ago.
Last year me, my daughter and my mom went to birmingham on the train. My mom had not been to birmingham for many years, well, my mom was so thrilled at going because her own mother used to go a lot to birmingham, and because my mom was walking around the shops and places that her mother used, it gave her some kind of comfort at doing this, i know it sounds strange but it's true.
You never really get over losing your mother, but, you learn to live with it and move on, but your memories will never fade.
Just take each day as it comes.
Good Luck.
My Mum died 12th June 1975. I wish she could have seen her granddaughter grow up.
My lullaby when I was a little girl was "Goodnight Sweetheart" and I can't hear that melody without a tear or two.
I don't think you ever really get over losing a loved one or someone that is close to you. I think that over time you just learn to cope with your loss and you come to accept it more as time goes on. That person is always going to hold a place in your heart and no one else can fill that void. As you grow older and make new relationships it will help. I don't think you ever really just get over it.
well, to be honest, not relly. you learn ways adapt to the changes that come in day to day life but for me(loosing my dad) you dont "get over it" you learn to include the memories into your happy thoughts, you learn to laugh about the fun things and the silly things and you learn to do it with peace instead of tears. the hurt doesnt go away but you can give it a place in your heart where it resides not preoccupies your mind and emotion. i sympathize with your pain in this matter, as i was always "daddys little girl" well just remember you can use the good memories to brighten a sad moment and it helps to bring a smile in the midst of the pain. keep trying and hang in there.
Nicky sweetheart i think we all feel like that when we loose someone dear and close to us i feel sorry for you as after 8 years of loosing my dear wife i still cant come to terms loosing her and i can relate to you but if it helps you it will lesson as the years pass but you never really accept it /Try looking into the future sweetheart thats what she would want you to do
I would NEVER get over it if I lost my mom... my step sister lost her mother 3 years ago and she still feels lost and sad
No, I dont think you do. Time passes and the hurt eases, but the memory stays , try to think of the good times you had together, Im sure she would be proud of you today. Your Mum would not want you to stay in mourning forever, but would like you to recall the happy moments together, Im sure she is with you.
It is sad to lose a family member or a friend but the loss usually gets easier as the years go by it's something all of us have to face at some time and also the fact that it happens to us all eventually.We are born we live we die this is as it has been for all time .I'm sure you will come to terms with your loss and treasure the fond memories of your mother for ever .I am sure that she would not want you to be upset for so long over her passing. The feelings of loss you have are natural and it is something we all feel about the death of a loved one.
I believe that no one really dies until there is nobody left who remembers them.
No you never really get over it, for your life will never be the same again. My mum died in 1998 aged 44. I was 24, my youngest brother just 17. All you can do is try to fill the gap that she's left in your life. You've done this successfully when you can think of your mum and smile, and not be filled with grief or anger. Also you need to be thinking about your mum as something extra in your life, not something thats missing from it. She's still looking down on you, make her proud of you.
My mum died just before my 16th birthday, (few years ago now) she'd been ill for many years with arthritis which caused her an awful lot of pain, (which isn't what killed her).
It wasn't until I became a mum that I realised just how much she meant to me.
All I can say is, that you never actually get over it, you just learn to live with the pain.
You think of her at the strangest of times and sometimes it just hits you and you feel as though it was only yesterday that she went. Life seems intolerable, but you pull yourself up, shake yourself off and carry on. You have to.
It's all very well people saying 'try to remember the good times' but to be totally honest, we didn't have many as a family, (long story) and I got angry and blamed her for leaving. But in the same breath, i know that had she not have died when she did, my life would've been so much different and a lot more awful. It sounds cruel I know, but that's the truth. I wish every day that things had been different and she hadn't died, but wishes are for fools and the reality is what we have to live with or without.
Take each day as it comes and deal with it however you see fit. Yes, try to remember the good times, hopefully you had a lot more than I did, and always remember, that she is in a better place now.
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n o i lost my mum 60 years ago when i was 10 and i still shed tears for her.
its noraml to still feel upset when you get that kind of loss. i lost my father in 1996 and i still cry for him...your mother is a very important person in your life and i never got over my dad.they were ppl u loved very much so i wouldnt expect you to get over that
My mother died in March, in New Zealand where she lived for 31 years. I only saw her twice since she moved there in '76, when she moved I was devastated and felt rejected and insanely lonely. I suppose I got used to not having my parents around, so her death did not strike home as much as I thought it would. She drifted away quite peacefully in a nursing home. but not before she had the chance to hold her first great grandchild.
I was never close to her as she was cold, hard and distant, I grew up very scared of women and have never married, despite wanting to badly. We get older and hope diminishes each day.
I know exactly how you feel. I lost my mom three and half years ago. I think about her every day and cry. People tell me that it gradually gets better but the pain will never go away completely. I lost my dad 29 years ago when I was 9 and I still miss him. But it's so much harder dealing with losing my mom because she was in my life for so much longer.
My mom died on October 28, 1990, and I still can't visit her grave. It's like I don't won't to see her name on the stone. I miss her so much.
I think the better term is "getting used" to it. I haven't gotten over it, I just adjusted to her not being here. I always think about her one way or another, can't really help it. I'm not lost without her though, she taught me alot about life, she did a great job to where I wouldn't feel lost.
Hello,
(ANS) I lost my father in 2000 I know its NOT quite the same but its clear that you are still in the process of grieving for your lovely mother.
**Please can I say to you, you will know when you have completed grieving when you a) can talk about your mum without feeling hurt or upset b) don't feel lost without her anymore.
**Also one thing which I want to mention to you, is that the human psyche & our unconscious does NOT recognize time at all. So events that took place many years ago can & do come back into our thoughts & feelings as if they only happened yesterday. Hence you are still grieving for her.
Kind Regards to you, take good care Ivan
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