HELP I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE...I AM ALREADY on antidepressants?
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I'm sorry sweety I will keep you in my prayers. I had a similar childhood. I think the best thing you can do is visualize good things happening in your life, breathe, meditate, and pray.
It does a body good.
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Juice your peach
if you didn't get help from the therapist ,we aren't going to be able to help you ==you gotta want to do something about it and stick to what your Dr says so that you can recover =and you will if you stay strong and do it
Stop trying to be strong and try to be human. It sounds like you may be suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You certainly have the background for it. If you aren't happy with the therapist you saw, find another and let it all out. I think once you do, and then take a deep breath and let it out, you start to feel better. It's OK not to be "strong". The best way to get your life back is to acknowledge what you went through.
consult a doctor- it sounds like you had a lot of trouble in your life and need a little help. even if it is not meds, their therapy and talk may help you out a lot.
You need some tranquilisers my love
I am so sorry that things have been the way that they have. Therapy takes time. One session will not fix everything. As for your anti-depressant, you might not be taking the right one for your body's chemistry. I think that you need to talk to your doctor about that medication and maybe changing or increasing the dose. As for the therapy, give it a little more time before giving up on it. I know that this may sound trite, but you could try exercising more. It is a great stress reliever and it will give you something else to focus on. Good luck!
Please be strong and pray! with GOD nothing is impossible, Everything is possible! There's a reason for everything. Don't lose hope and everything will be O.K. Good Luck! Also every problem has a solution!
I grew up in a very abuse home. Mom chased dad around with a knife and cut him and I was suicidal at 8 yrs old. this stess came back to haunt me later in life so I took a course that has proved very helpful as drugs and therapists did not do it. I decided to lighten up in big ways, to become childlike in my thinking since kids have enormous peace and very rarely get depression. I took to watching kid movies like Shrek, Flushed Away, Over the Hedge and Finding Nemo (especially the shark scene--hilarious; I watched them so much I could review the funny scenes in my mind in my spare time; this build peace in my heart); read kid books like Benny and the Binky, Jethro Byrd Fairy Child and many others. This resulted in my building up huge peace reserves and I feel great and have escaped the depression of my family memories. Of course, few people would like this approach because most love stress and being uptight. I like to collect jokes (rd.com the best site) and do many other kid like things and spend time with my kids. But I know most people think this is stupid because they are so serious, so I doubt you would find this helpful but sure has helped me. I laugh more often and much longer.
I think the First thing you need to remember is that you made the first step in getting help. but you also need to remember that you made it thru all that and survived. Now is the time that You need to think about yourself,You can still be strong and tell people how you feel.. Also your meds may need to be changed or upped and it also sounds like you may need an antianxiety medication as well..Keep talking you took yrs of abuse and its going to take yrs of therapy for you to undertand why and were you are in your life...I will keep you and your son in prayer...
I worked with a woman who suffered a major depression that lasted for two years. She did everything right, she saw a psychiatrist for medication and a therapist for counseling. Her recovery was very gradual and not entirely complete when I last saw her. I wish that I had some real solid advice for you, but I don't. I can only tell you that there is hope for you, continue doing what you are doing and believe that your life will get better.
Some suggestions:
If you have been on one antidepressant for awhile and it appears not to be working, it's important to try other one or a combination. See a psychiatrist if your health plan permits, or see your MD, to continue looking for medication(s) and dosage that work for you. I know many people who had little success with the first antidepressant they tried, but have real relief on their current regimen.
And please continue to see your therapist. You've had a rough life in many ways, and it will take some time for you and your therapist to work your way to a better outlook. Your therapist is someone you don't have to appear strong for. I'm sorry today's session didn't bring immediate relief, but try to focus on the long term.
With proper medication and continued therapy, you should begin to experience a better mood and find effective ways to cope with the stresses you (and an awful lot of us) have to deal with.
Good luck! Stick with it!
Hello Smiley,
A good choice of a name it hides all the hurt you re feeling.
Please be positive - your father is now dead so he cant hurt you - and yet you cant forget the hurt that he caused you and your mother.
I am so sorry that your mother has cancer - you also say your son is in the army.
You have made a first step by telling everyone on here that you are depressed and that you saw a therapist.
I don't know your age but from what you have said I assume that you ARE 45 PLUS MAYBE.
I am 56 and hate it but have accepted it (crap I know) I suggest you tell people (like myself and others) how you feel because then people will help you once they know your problem.
You can be strong and will be - you could email me if you wish - life is about sharing problems which in today's world is easier than it was. So I am saying to you share your problems with me and I will listen and respond if your email will allow me to. OK.
Think positive - be positive - and you shall eventually be stress free (share a problem and that helps) i WANT TO SHARE YOUR PROBLEM OK.
Jeanie
WOW! I can tell just by reading what you have written you are a very strong person!You say you have seen a therapist just today? If so keep seeing him\her. and please understand that with antidepressants they can take up to 3 weeks to enter your system and there are also some that just do not work for some people, meaning you and your Dr./therapist /phsyciatrist, may have to experiment with certain antidepressants to find which work for you, I call it trial and error,And I have to ask you why,... you want to 'SEEM strong' when.YOU ARE STRONG! reread what you wrote, and as I started in the beginning of this...WOW!! You have gone through more than what you have typed here and I am sure there are no true written words to fully describe the extent of you pain, Your managing right now,,Keep being your own manager! you CAN take it!! xoxo Angie
Work out or a vacation will only slow down the stress but memories will stay with use all, I never had that experience but I had a stepfather who was no different than a dad who left his kid, I never forget how I wanted to stab him with my sword, I was a little kid with a mean and heartless step dad for 10 years but now I forget he was born even do I know he's still out their, but one thing you should do is forgive your father, that is the only way you will feel bather. The memories will still be their but you still need to move on.
How often are you in resistance to what is happening? Embrace what is. Saying yes to life ends the stress caused by resisting life.
Depression is from thinking of past and thinking about future, in mind.
You want something, but you're seeking in mind for what is already here, and the seeking only veils what is already here.
So seeking is counter-productive. you want to change your life so you will finally arrive, saying this cannot be as it is, I want to escape. this is seeking.
There is no escape, and this is good, because you want what is here.
You distract yourself from experiencing here, via thinking in the service of seeking.
Your solution is to stop seeking for anything or anyone, mostly you. to be other than as-is.
Find out the result. No time is required to do this, time is the obstacle.
I hope you are telling your therapist how you feel. If you don't tell anyone else you should tell him/her. You need to remind yourself that things will get better. And you might have had a lot of trauma in your life, but you need to remind yourself that you survived it. You are a survivor. You are strong and you will get through this.
please find a therapist that you can talk to and work with. Having a combination of meds and therapy will help you, but you need to stick it out and find a good counselor.
These things do not go away, and does come back to cause such misery in our lives. i understand you because i am there. but It really helps to have the support of professionals, and someone who listens to you.
You said that you saw a therapist today... was this the first time you've seen someone for your depression? If it was, you need to keep going back. If not, was the therapist new? If so, continue to see him/her for at least 6 sessions before you decide if you have a trust chemistry with this person.
If you are having panic attacks, are you taking any type of med's? Although Ativan, Valium, Xanax, etc. can really be a big help in getting you through a tough time, please remember that they are also addictive when taken for more than a few weeks.
When this happens to me, I try coloring with colored pencils, getting out of the house (even if it's just to the store for a loaf of bread or box of tea) - it seems to help when I remove myself from the area of stress.
I find it ironic that your screen name is "Smiley" but you make the comment about not wanting people to know that you don't really feel strong. It's a mask that we seem to wear for other people - & ourselves, but we don't have to - at least not all of the time. It's okay to admit that you can't be "up" 100% of the time and that you have bad times like other people. Don't worry about what people might think or say.
Hope some of this helps.
Ann
well let me tell u life these days are not ez at all! bless your heart and seems we all have some strange things in our past it seems alot more difficult when u r a child and all these terrible things happen! i lost mom when i was a baby she was 27 my gramma raised me and i still miss mom throughout many special occasions in my life~i lived and had a terrific childhood then with my gramma although it was not mom i loved her and had her till she was 96 so i felt blessed! her death did not hit me until several years later~~~i went off on alot of things i had a terrible time sorting my emotions out! i am on paxil now after have a complete hystrectomy so it helps alot i am not big on therpist but some people r~ i keep my faith which seems to help i dont go over board butGod is important to me~sometimes i miss her soooooooo much well u hang in there its a slump now although you will have your good n bad days n u will come out a surrviveior BLESS YOU U R NOT ALONE~~~~~~~~~
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