What does it mean when you look at old photos of yourself as a kid or teen growing up and you hate it because?
Question:
could this have anything to do with the bullying i suffered, which gave me a bad self image, and the reason i have no self esteem and borderline personality disorder now at the age of 30?
i look back on some old photos and i feel physically shocked at how i looked, like a shock to the system that staggers you..and i cant get over it
Answers:
i look back at my pics from years ago and think how awful and sad i looked in those...teenage years are never easy, im still going through it, i had some incidents of bullying when i was younger and i had really bad self esteem...luckily, as i hated having my picture taken when i was growing up, there are hardly any photos of me during secondary school, its like i didnt exist until 2 years ago...
nowadays, its not a problem for me, i look at those pics and think, well we all had to grow up somehow...im sure everyone else feels the same inside, not everyone admits it though.
the fact that you have come this far and you survived growing up is good thing...im sure you have lots be glad for...think of what you have achieved and who around you affects your life in a good way, your friends etc...people who love you for who you are...if that doesnt boost your self esteem i duno what would...
i hope you can learn to accept you looked the way you were and that one day you will be able to look back at those photos and think, "if i hadnt been like that, then i wouldnt be this amazing person i am today"
hope this helps... :-)
yes
look toward the future...not the past.
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We all change over the years, it is quite possible it brings back memories. Remember they are memories now not facts.
Everyone does this! I have looked back at pictures of myself when I was in highschool and almost fell out of my chair laughing (or crying?). I still can't believe that my hair was that yellow and that BIG and that I was actually wearing BLUE eyeliner! UGH! Don't worry, we all looked bad in highschool and as kids. The best part about it is to look in the mirror now and see the drastic improvement.
i recently saw a home video of me, bak in the summer of 87-88 i was only about 4.. i was in a cozzy so couldnt complain wot my parents had dressed me in, i just moaned on how spoiled i was.. gettin all the tention gettin my brother into trouble for no reason.. oh and sulking...
now i know where my daughter gets it from...lol
wow...therapy? i need it too!
those are the past though. you lived through it and it is all over. Be thankful you got through it and do not have to experience it ever again. Put the photos away, it bothers too much.
There are some photos of me that I just hate when i was younger too. I do not dwell on that though. Maybe find a little humor in them?
Don't look back in anger they say :o)
It's no child's fault how it looks, it is only the parents fault if they allow their kids to be bullies.
Why would you hate yourself? Looking at your question you seem to be a very warm and thoughtful person, this is something one can be proud of.
I believe that kids who bully have themselves confidence issues and they try to fill the confidence gap by acting in a (for them) superior way towards others. They don't understand that bullying has nothing to do with gaining superiority in the right sense, it is just an ego trip and thoughtful intelligent kids are the sufferers from bullying, maybe because the very concept of bullying is so ridiculous.
that's a normal feeling your feeling we all look at ourselves in old pictures and cringe, even our parents wedding pictures are cringe worthy. you should look at them pictures and laugh, not think " now i now why i was bullied" that's ridiculous
I looked totally Geeky as a kid and was picked on in school but that just hardened my will to move forward and never look back!! Don't let the bad times influence your life now ! If you do they win !! If the pictures bother you that much put them away and stop living in the past! Try going out and doing something just for you! Your only 30 and have a long way to go yet so don't feel all is lost ! It's up to you !!
because you did not like the outfit your mum put on you. Wished you were earning money at that time so you could have bought what you really like; be independent, and happy. But obviously you've got to learn how to walk before you could run. Also it reminded you about your miserable face that was full of acne.
That looks like a nice pic. Your not alone. I alsoe was bullied in school, from grammer sch ool into high school, dont know why, It just was.
things do get better, you will always remember , but you must move foward.
What a cutie pie! Why do you hate the way you looked, seriously? ...Bully's and exhusbands can give you a bad self image of yourself. And parents without a positive thought in their pea brains! ..Your personality disorder could be a mood disorder where the brain doesn't release enough seratonin. That's what I have, not bragging or anything! I have, or had all my life, depression and anxiety. A mere chemical imbalance that can literally alter your life. Maybe a doc can prescribe an antidepressent to get your being a happy camper! I was so anxious and depressed, I wanted to kick my own bucket. It takes a mental and physical toll on ya! I'm tellin' ya, it works wonders for me. I take Paxil..But while your childhood pic was adorable, mine aren't so cute. I've been a blonde for 25 years, but the pics show me as a brunette! Ugh!
wow you were one cute boy, i wonder what makes you think that.
its quite normal for people to look back on old photos and think oh my god what did i look like, but yes the bulling would contribute, have you spoken to anyone about the bulling? it might have been a long time ago but its obviously still troubles you try talking to your GP they should be able to help and dont think just because it was years ago they will ignore you.
best wishes
This is actually pretty common for someone to look back at old photos and be like "that was me" or "I can't believe I looked like that", etc.
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