For anyone who has dealt with clinical depression..?

Question:

Just looking for a few more opinions. How has it affected your relationships? Do you find it difficult to communicate with the people in your life that you love the most, and find yourself cutting them out of your life? More specifically, have you had to end a relationship because of it, but couldn't bring yourself to communicate any further with that person even if they were offering support and help?? I've found myself in this situation, and don't know what to do to help him. I'm trying to be a friend to him, but he's not very responsive to me and I don't know if I should leave him be or keep offering support and letting him know I am there so he knows that I haven't abandoned him. I'm just having a hard time trying to figure out his unresponsiveness. He doesn't seem to want anything to do with me

Answers:
Although I understand his pain and your confusion I real do not think you should be waiting around for him. It is unfair that he has left you in such a limbo regardless of if he is depressed or not. Yes depression could make the relationship come to an end its simply to overwhelming sometimes to have anyone around at all but that does not mean he should leave you hanging on a piece of string not knowing if its ever going to happen or not. Move on with your life and if he really cares he will come back in time but please don't put your life on hold for him, I mean you don't want to end up as depressed as he is right? Have fun you only live once. take care

I wouldn't give up. I have been suffering with depression for about 8 years now. It has really affected my relationships. I found that most people didn't (and still don't) understand what I'm going through. When my "friends" found out about my mental illness, a lot of them just abandoned me. The few that really stuck by me, through thick and thin, even in the really rough times when I didn't want them (like you're describing) I'm still very good friends with.
I was engaged to a really sweet guy about 2 yrs ago. He knew from the beginning that I had these issues, but he thought he was up for it. He never understood why I would just burst out crying for no reason, or how I could go from being so sweet, to screaming at him to get away from me. He even slept in a separate room for the major part of our engagement. He really gave it his all. Even after we broke up, he was still there for me as a friend. I know it's hard for him. I'll call him at midnight, crying, and he will stop what he's doing and come over to be with me and comfort me. He never gave up on me.
I think that's what your friend needs, someone to stick by him no matter what. So I wouldn't give up on him. I know it's so hard, but you are doing so much by being there for him and letting him know that you care!

I hope my personal story/opinion has helped!

Hi, I think maybe I can help. I to have a problem similar to this one. You say he is in a band? most people who play in a band party(use drugs) this could be part of the problem. And he does not want you to know hes in the closet! Try to give him some space, tell him you are there for him, But that you won't be e-mailing any more until he is ready to hear from you. It will be hard for you to do this. But if you do all will work out for the best. Also check out programs for loved ones who partners have drug problems > It may help you understand more

For anyone who has dealt with clinical depression..?

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