How to deal with a slightly mentaly disabled brother?
Question:
I love him and i cannot believe my life without him , i don't want to travel abroad cuz of him though i can , but i am not qualified enough te deal with his state , so he thinks i am cruel .
he is not that disabled just slight and his IQ is more than 60 thanks God
does anyone here have this type of problem to tell me the experience and i want websites about the slight mental disable plz
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Answers:
Have you tried talking to your brother? The best way to understand someone with a mental disability is to ask the person specifically. If he is in fact loosing contact with reality or sounds like he could even be having seizures, he may not know what is going on during this lapse.
There are also support groups for family members. I suggest contacting your local NAMI (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) www.nami.org as they will often have a local support group for family members. I used to participate in such a support group and have found that family members receive a great deal of benefit from attending.
I'm not trying to be discourteous... but is he able to find companionship with other people? Perhaps a woman? I do not know how old he is, I assume is an adult. Maybe if you could find some people for him to associate with that would help somehow.
You should consult an expert, he might be autistic, and they have very good programs for these kind of people... You're being very good with him, although he doesn't notice it. Keep it up
What u need to do is all to show him love. Love can cure any problem, the only thing is u need to strongly believe in it and have faith in the almighty. He will get well soon don't worry.
If he is capable of understanding whats around him, take him places. I work with children like this and the best way for them to understand social situations and what is appropriate is by experience. If he is older and you wanted to, there are many organizations that will take him while you travel, he could travel with them or whatever other activity he enjoys. They are often costly. If your brother can care for himself with little help he can move into a place with assisted living, that would give him and you freedom. If his IQ is more than 60, baring no physical prob. he may just need to find his nitch, maybe its time for a change. Ease him into the new situation, he may like the change.You are being a good sister to him.God bless.
Retardation was once included in mental illness. I think you have a fine brother. I suggest that you find your parents and leave him with his mother. The state will assist her to raise her child. You need to see that your children will need you as a mother.
for starters put your self in his shoes. if he has mental problem he has a harder time realizing what is going on with him self. im sure he would like some answers him self. all i can say is enjoy every second you have with him. he has great qualities. and he deserves compassion and love as much as the next person. sounds like you love him you just need to get to see a specialist your self on how to deal with him and what to do for him.do things with him that is appropriate for his condition and the main thing love the hell out of him couse god made him like that and god dont mess up
You say that he is not autistic, but every problem you are discussing is a symptom of someone on the spectrum -- in his own world, perseveration, not understanding or caring about your feelings, litle care for personal hygiene, peers who consider him odd. Has he ever been evaluated by a professional? If he can get a true diagnosis, there should be more help available to him -- and you.
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