How can i help myself to be less antisocial?

Question:

this summer,i went to NY for vacations,there was my fathers uncle and he had a grandaugther,she was like my age,then we all went with my mom,dad,uncle,his wife,her daugther and her husband and me to a restaurant,and i like felt appart,i was the only one at there that didnt talk at all,then a few days later we left to massachusetts with my aunt,the third day that we where in massachusetts we decided to go to six flags,so the son of my aunt told us that he had a kid that was my age and he coulda be with me to get on the rides,so i wouldnt be alone,so he went with me,and we were in the lines and i was all quite,then like at the last hour we where there it was when i started talking to him, and i felt like i dont know,then last night, we where going to a restaurant to eat here in where i actually live,and my uncle from NY came for vacations and he came with that girl again,and i wanted to talk to her but i was like no way.so i wana know how can i help myself,without going to a psiciatrist

Answers:
It sounds like you are not as much antisocial as you are a little shy about talking to people. You don't need a psychiatrist unless most of the rest of the world does also. About everyone goes through that type thing sometimes and with some others, especially those of the opposite sex.

If you can focus on the other person instead of being nervous, then you will find things to talk to them about. Once you break the ice, it gets easier. And the next time you know more about how to handle situations that you are in. Each time you will gain confidence. Probably if you only knew what was going through the other person's mind, you would find that they are thinking about the same way and are as uncertain as you are. Ask questions that show interest in their home state, school, hobbies, etc. Just try to put them at ease and see if they will begin talking to you. Or show them interesting things in your town. Focus on being a good host or hostess and everything will go better for both of you. Best of luck.

I think you need some confidence. Yes, I've had this problem too. Anyway, I think what you need to do is start talking more. Whenever you feel like "eh, nevermind," just argue back saying "well, if I never do this, then how am I gonna not be anti-social?"

It's all about defeating that "I don't want to" in your head. Even if you tell yourself not to, challenge yourself and do it anyway.

for me its like this,

if youre quiet, noone will ever notice you
if you want girls to notice you, you gotta stick out man

even if you look like brad pitt, without sticking out in a crowd, you wont ever win the girl you want someone else who sticks out will

i am the same way, i am really shy. its not that easy to just build up your confidence just like that, trust me i know. just try not to be as shy and be yourself.

How can i help myself to be less antisocial?

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