How do you know if your depressed?
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Both issues are depressing you.
PLEASE see a counselor.
ususally people are obsessed about their weight for different reasons than thinking they are ACTUALLY fat. for me its the fact that i dont have a boyfriend, it leads me to believe that its all my weights fault. which its not. your probably beautiful the way you are =). as for the gay thing, your family and friends love you, they would love you just as much if you are attracted to the same sex, who cares its life =)
So your a depressed homo? Wow. That's interesting.
the eating disorders, and unhappiness comes from you not being able to come out.
take the time to read over what you just wrote. your family loves you, as well as your friends.
if this is true it shouldnt matter to them if you are gay or straight. you should embrace your feelings and your friends/family will accept and encourage you to go along with those feelings. theres no shame in being gay; you are in no way a boat of your own.
come out when you know its that time (now since you are having those problems you stated) and good luck finding your first girlsfriend =D
I feel like I was reading my own journal. All of the things you mentioned are all connected and it's hard to solve. I had (and have) good friends and a good family, too, and I was still depressed. Will your parents let you go to talk therapy to help you sort some of this out? If not, at least talk to a guidance councilor at school. You need someone you can tell everything to...someone who knows what they are doing and can give you good advice.
Also, I gained a little bit of weight when I went on anti-depressants, but I'm so much happier now. I'd rather be happy than skinny. It was worth it to me.
It is important to realize that everyone feels sad and unhappy with life from time to time, some people a lot more than others. Those who have true depression exhibit behavior that effects their daily life. I.e. staying in their room for days, not going to work, alcoholism, etc. Nonetheless what is more pressing is to get you to feel better about yourself. For many people, physical activity can get some chemicals going in their brain that bring them out of their depression. Doesn't even have to be something strenuous, going for a walk could help. Be careful to not start enjoying feeling down. That happens to a lot of people, they get accustomed to being unhappy and it starts to feel comfortable so they almost seek out feeling down. You are ultimately in charge of how you feel and there are things like exercise and deliberate decision making that can allow you to exert much more control over your emotional state.
you need to learn to accept yourself first ,go and see your doctor and try to get your eating disorder under control i am sure you are a beautiful person and your family love you very much it is your happiness that is important be brave tell your mum first share how you are feeling be strong good luck
You are depressed and it's because you are now living the life you really want. You said you are gay but you are not living as a gay teen. No one knows your secret and a secret like that can put a tremendous amount of anxiety on a person. People that say means things to you or leave you hanging should drown themselves and save the rest of us from their small minded thoughts and meaningless lives. You my friend are in need of a counselor and love from your parents. Which ever parent you are closest too, talk to them. Tell them what is going on and ask them for help. They love you and will help you any way they can.
when your depressed you usually dont want to do anything,
its hard to get motivated sometimes you just dont want to get out of bed
depression and stress/anxiety are closely related if your worried about your weight and having to hide being gay i would say its probaly the stress but sometimes i get depressed when i am really stressed
i would find a doctor i can trust and talk about all this with them good luck
Hi, sorry to hear you are feeling so bad. You really need to go to a doctor. In the meantime, the following steps will eliminate (or at least significantly reduce) your stress and anxiety:
1.Breathe properly - if you control your breathing, you control panic. As soon as you notice the signs of anxiety, check your breathing: breathe in slowly through your nose pushing your tummy out (to the count of 5 or so). Breathe out slowly and for a bit longer (to the count of 7 or so) through your mouth. Do not breathe rapidly or shallowly (in the chest area). This will soon restore the balance of oxygen and you will feel a lot better.
2. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy! CBT is proven to really effective for OCD, eating disorders and anxiety etc. It takes a bit of work, but it is super effective. (After 15 years of panic attacks, mine stopped completely). You can speak to your doctor about taking a course or you can take a course for free online at: www.livinglifetothefull.com
3. Try relaxation exercise tapes (progressive muscular relaxation). They really help if you practise often enough. You can get free downloads if you put "progressive muscle relaxation" into Google (e.g. lots of universities have them as free downloads)
With each step practise makes perfect. (i.e. practise the steps every day, not just when you are feeling bad). I hope you feel better soon. Best of luck!
OCD & other disorders do not go away on their own. You need to get into therapy. That's a start for now. Get feeling better about yourself physically, then you'll feel better mentally, so you can then deal with your other matter. You have a full plate & it will take time & patience to deal with everything. So take it one day at a time & soon the weight wil be lifted off your chest. Once you lose weight & like what you see when you look in the mirror, the rest will fall into place, & you'll be able to truly like yourself.
i can definitely relate to this. i am 15, and came out partially to my mom and some friends that i "thought" i was gay. i am waiting a little while to tell my dad and everyone else that i don't just think, but know. and the whole eating and OCD thing, i have too. i am obsessed with my weight as well, you can probably tell if you look at some of my past questions lol. anyways, i don't know exactly what it is that can help you because i don't even know what can help me. but i would say talk to someone you are close to about the whole gay thing. it really makes you feel better! and the weight, only people that don't need to worry about their weight are obsessed with it. you'll be fine hun, just keep your head up.
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