My friend is wanting to commit suicide, how can I make him change his mind?
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First of all, there is NOTHING you can do if another person decides to end their life. You can offer HELP, but you can't ever control their actions, and they can't control yours.
Second, it is NOT your fault. If it were, you could stop it, which you can't. The only person you can control is YOU. You are obviously a good and caring friend.
Thirdly, if you have even the slightest suspicion that someone may be seriously intending to harm themselves, you have a duty to notify authorities. It could be his parents, guardians, or teachers. If you think there's an imminent danger, you should definitely call the police. At that point it becomes the job of the authority figure to find out what's going on and give the person the treatment they need.
But as far as changing someone's mind...no, you can't. All you can do is be there for the person, be a caring friend, ready and willing to listen and offer support. Any change that is coming to happen in your friend's psyche is going to happen inside HIM when HE decides it's time and not before.
So don't beat yourself up about this! Suicidal people are often highly manipulative and enjoy the attention they get when others think they are to blame for the suicidal person's pain. If you buy into this, you're just reinforcing his suicidal feelings. Show him that you have strength to share with him, but not guilt. That's the best way to be a friend in this circumstance.
Good luck!!
tell his parents.
tell him you love him
call 911. He needs to go to a mental hospital ASAP!!
He needs serious help. Tell his parents, tell anybody that can get him some help. Nothing you do or say is going to matter to him right now, he is past that point.
DON'T TAKE THIS LIGHTLY! GET IN TOUCH WITH HIS PARENTS A.S.A.P. THIS IS A PERMANANT SOLUTION FOR A TEMPORARY PROBLEM I HAVE HAD SO MANY FRIENDS THAT KILLED THEMSELVES AND IT IS SOOOOO SAD PLEASE DO SOMETHING NOW!
let him know what he has to live for
If you are truly concerned and think that he really might, you need to get a hold of his family. Let them know the situation and let them know that you fear for him based on his own words. There really isn't a whole lot you can say to someone, maybe listening is your best option. I seriously recommend that you turn for help in this situation..his family, doctor, if you think he is in danger right now...maybe even call 911. This is not something to take lightly. I lost a friend to suicide last year, he was not open about his feelings...we never saw it coming.
It is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. So do what ever it takes .even if you lose the friendship...it would be worth it to know he will get help!
tell him that what ever is bothering him its not worth it that if he dose kill himself then what are you going to do with out them, i know this from experience that's what my friend did to me when i was going thru the same thing she seed that she was going to kill her self to if i did so i thought about it and hear i am 4 months later
talk to his parents or gather up all yours and his friends and talk to him but pressure him or make him feel like your ganging up on him show him that he has friends make him happy just dont make a fool of yourself in doing so or do anything you dont want to do and remember it is not your fault it was his chioce not yours and if hes religous give him a talk about god or something like that i hope i helped and i hope your friend lives bye
This sorta thing is no joke ! Call the authorities , call his Parents
You never really know if someone is serious , however if he said this to you and will not talk now , he may be serious .
Don't gamble on something this serious.
I don't know if you can change his mind. But you must never believe suicide is ever YOUR fault. There are things going on in him that another person cannot cause. Call the suicide prevention hotline and see if they have any advice. Don't avoid the subject. Let him know how much you care. Let him know that down times in life do pass and that suicide is a premanant solution to a temporary problem.
Do your best but don't accept responsibility if it doesn't turn out well.
Don't get in touch with his parents. This is between you and him. Call 911 or a different emergency service and have them come pick him up. He might be more embarrassed and more prone to hurt himself if you tell his parents first, let the professionals do their work and let his parents find out from them.
at some points i have experienced this .
just help him find passion and intentions : ) as in ambitions !!
so theres something to look forward to .
if he was bothered by something try as hard as you can to know and help . maybe he feels like he doesnt exist , or not loved by people . let people show him they care about him .
You need to talk to professional you do not need to handle this on your own. Look for the Crisis Hot lines number and call them immediately. If you do not take action and your friend hurts him self how would that make you feel? Guilty right? So, he might get mad at you for a while but if he didn't want help, he would not have told you about it in the first place.
About 8 years ago I had a friend who had moved 1hr 1/2 away. She called me late one night saying that she could not take it any more, that her son would be better off with out her. (that sort of thing) I knew that I could not take the chance of her hurting her self, especially with her son being with her. I called the crisis hot line and spoke to a councilor about it. With their help I decided to call the police. She was very mad at me for a while, she check into clinic and got some help. We are still go friends today. I don't know if she really would have done anything that night, but what if she had?
Your friend needs immediate professional help. You cannot solve this problem on your own.
Warn his family that he has confided in you thoughts of suicide. Tell him there is a way out, and he can be helped by doctors - encourage him to seek professional assistance.
There is an insult unto death . When friends and family show how you are an outcast socially there is a great shock to the mind. If he has one friend he will never believe he is a total outcast. If you are the last one you need to teach him the rules for social intercourse.
If your friend is telling you this he want's you to help him.I know this because i've been there myself.You really should talk to someone about it ASAP.
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