Am I worthless if I choose to live my life alone?
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There's nothing wrong with living alone. Some people prefer and do better living in solitude. You do have to have someone to reach out to, though, at least once in awhile.
No,Theres alot of people who live alone and are fine with that.
absolutely not lots of people live by themselves
Go hermit...it's the way to go...JUST DO IT!
nope, enjoy your solitude
You are not alone. You have your daughter with you. I am very sorry that you have lived with so many bad experiences. I hope you get some professional help and start feeling good about yourself. You do not want this to effect your daughter. Good Luck!
well I would say given your state right now asking if you're worthless would be unhealthy. But you have a daughter and if you try your best to make things work with her then you're not worthless, you should boost your self esteam, your daughter sees you as a roll model and you dont want her being depressed and down about herself
No you are not worthless. Not at all. How one choses to live is his or her choice, plain and simple. There is no golden rule that says one has to be with another or give or not to be a valued person.
Better question is... do YOU think you are worthless. That is something you need to look at closely and honestly answer for yourself. What is it YOU want, what is it that YOU need to do for yourself, what is it that makes YOU happy. You have to love oneself (and I don't mean conceit), to be happy in life. One cannot give if they do not give to themself first.
I would not say you are worthless, just people have always screwed you and betrayed you so you are cautious as you do not want that to happen again. Talk to a psychiatrist about how you feel, maybe there is something more to this than you know. Usualy people who get screwed a lot do so because they expect it to happen.
leave the past and think about the future. focus and try hard in work. So you wont feel alone. Try to stay close to your friends. Call them over hang out. LIVE YOU LIFE for you only live once
Everyone should have the right to chose to live their life their way as long as they do not break laws or hurt others. But you cannot totally hide from the world because you need to have an income, albeit a job, to pay for things.
But you have a daughter and that would not be fair if you dropped from the face of the earth. From what you describe I would say you are experiencing one of several issues - mid life crisis, depression, or a physically illness. Go see a licensed counselor through your insurance or through a state/county mental health program to help you discover the root of the problem and appropriate solutions.
Life is good. Many people work and then chose to go home and not socialize. Each person has to make that decision for themselves. But from the way you describe yourself, I don't think you want to be socially isolated, just happy with friends and respect.
i dont know you and you dont me, and i may only be 14.but i think that you have something in life you can live for.like...you could live your life for your daughter...dedicate your life to let your daughter have a good chance of life.
Your world is very insular. There are so many possibilities for you in the world. You have a daughter who needs her father and his input into her life. Worthless, I don't think so, frightened a little, perhaps. But, you are loving and have been loved. Try to recover some of your self image. It may be a tough journey, but self-discovery can be one of the hardest to conquer. Good luck.
Are you supporting yourself, do you provide for yourself , food ,clothing , and shelter, You are communicating with others, even if you are physically alone. If you are doing all these things, No, you are not worthless. It is a choice you made, not everyone , would choose it, but not everyone had to live in your shoes.
no, not at all.
choosing to live alone can help you discover yourself more deeply, it can also help you build up your confidence within yourself. from what i have read it must be really hard to have gone through such agony, one which i have not experienced before, but no choosing to live alone does not make you worthless, it can be pleasurable as no one stand in your way, and you are free to do what you want.
so you want your daughter to be like you? alone and only concerned with your own pain? it sounds like you have had some good things in your life too...are you in a wheelchair? are you blind? are you deaf? you choose friends worthy of you---did you choose wisely? can you look outside yourself to those worse off than you and show compassion even though you were shown none?
if you want to live alone with no impact on anyone else move to a commune or become a hermit but you have a child and must think of her and what kind of world you want her to grow up in..one where she kicks others when they are down or one where she helps others up.or maybe one where she has no idea that there even are other people besides herself?
you are not worthless at all. ppl have treated u bad. but that is not you. i will talk to you to help you out. i was going thru this until i had a breakthru. try me i can help dogmicjoe@yahoo.com
i agree not at all. here's the thing i think that people who have had a hard life need to be alone if only for a while. i think solitude is the best way to get answer's from your self. it's important to get a strong stance on first figureing out who you are so that you can use your new found (you) to stand up for your self and your daughter your when life is bringing you down. you want to evolve as a person to repond to life's occurances in the future. i think up till now you have had other's telling you how to think, what to do. you know what i mean? you need to learn your self how to think and feel and tell your self how you want to live your life. you need to look for your own happiness what ever that is. you'll take this time to find this out as well.
this is what i think too. it's not healthy to stay by your self for ever. people who chose to do this are not doing it for self betterment, they are doing it out of fear. you dont want to be fearful the rest of your life. in fact the reason i think solitude is good is to learn to not be scared. to do thing's out side of your comfort zone that bring's you some self esteem. like taking that job you've alway's wanted to try. or get educated, or learn how to play the guitar. what ever will boost your confidenc. i believe in due time you will get stronger and then you will be ready to take on the world.
you also are not in this for your self. you have responsibilites to teach your daughter. if you run and hide from the world you are teaching your daughter that it's ok to give up and not conquer problem's. your daugher need's to see you interacting with people and a girl friend so that she can see how it is to be social. we are very social people as a whole and so is important thing to know. if she doesnt see you for an example. interacting with a girl friend even argument's, she wont know how and will take on a boyfriend her self who will be abusive. if she argues with her boyfriend, she wont know how to resolve the problem in a calm mannerism. to know how to compromise, or learn to agree to disagree.
one more thing i think a place where you can start is getting rid of those people who zap your energy. getting rid of people who are against you. against the person you want to be. sometime's that's all it take's to be happy. and just focus on your self.
good luck
Dear Mister Thinker,
You are not worthless if you choose to live your life alone.
You are only worthless IF YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE WORTHLESS and that has absolutely nothing to do with whehter you live alone or with other people.
You choose not to get help from others in the world because you believe that you are worthless and not worth other people's time and effort to help. "I suck anyway, why waste their time??"
You believe you are worthless and therefore no matter where you go, you do not feel good and keep "SUFFERING"...
You believe you are worthless and that is why you allow your father to throw verbal abuse at you.. while you hate it on the outside, your belief that you are worthless has actually made you AGREE with all that he is saying about you deep inside... so you continually allow him to do that because, "he is right you know... I am ****..." that's what you really think..
Your misguided belief that you are worthless has also made you feel you are not worth of friendship.. that is why you never made any good friends.
Your misconception that you are worthless made you decided that you should have a terrible relationship with no mutual respect. "That way, I can prove that I am really worthless.. I am so worthless even my wife dun respect me... and I am so super worthless that SHE HAS DECIDED TO LEAVE ME!"
But it is all a misguided negative self belief about yourself.
The good news is that you can rectify it.. by MAKING A CHOICE!
You can choose again.. to be WORTHY and PRECIOUS. If you can, close your eyes and think back on all those things that made you feel worthless... imagine yourself throwing it down the rubbish chute and then tell yourself, "I am willing to let go of that. That is not true about me. I am not like that. I am precious."
Next, list down all the people and things that made you feel you are worthless. One by one, close your eyes, think about them, what they did, and FORGIVE THEM. When you find that you can forgive them 100%, you send love to them and tell yourself. "I forgive them. I am precious."
That would help.. if you need someone to talk to, you could email me at verityy@yahoo.com
Remember, you are so very precious.. your mere existence is important to many people around you (eg, your daughter).
I will be sending you lots of love ;)
I apologize, but this is laughable. LOL. Cheer up sir, this is only life. You are not alone. Its the human condition of sufferage.
Anyway, it seems you are depressed like the rest of us. If there is someone not depressed now, then they will be later. Expect it. Deal with it. Enjoy your life. Be kind, respectful, gentle, helpful where you can be. Volunteer. Here's a quote for you:
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in, forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day, begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered." -Ralph Waldo Emerson
Keep your chin up! No one is worthless. Imagine how a simple smile can make someone's day. Have you tried religion? Visit your nearest church. You'll discover hope there.
Crawling into a world of self-isolation will only make the situation worse!! You have a child that needs you!! Regain your focus and take a stand!! Life can s*** but, your negativity will only cause more harm than good. You cannot control other people and their actions!! You are not the only person that has had or has this problem.
No there is nothing wrong with living alone if you are happy and content with that. The fact is, that many people who do NOT live alone do so because they don't have the guts to do it because they are so worried about what other people will think. What is important here is that you love yourself, and become your own best friend, and be there for yourself when all others fail you. If you can attain that value, you have far exceeded those who live their lives dependent upon others for survival. Learn to converse with yourself, and learn to answer yourself freely. You may be doing this already and not even realize it. It is you communicating with yourself to a greater degree than most people ever achieve in a lifetime. Congratulations! You are indeed, by every standard, a true success.
your're not worthless. but it is unhealthy to live life alone. some people like it that way though. sounds like depression to me. spend some time with your daughter. maybe she can help you. at least get a pet or something.
The thing is you may not be worthless if u choose to live your life that way.It all depends on yourself you may appear worthless to rest of the world yet you feel worthwhile to yourself.Well sufering is always with us and we have suffered for as long as we've lived so my dear just be yourself and do your best in all you persue. My advice is "NO MAN IS AN ISLAND, NO MAN STANDS ALONE"
Hello Mr. Thinker,
We think a lot alike. I've been verbally abused by family and friends because I suffer from depression and am bipolar2. Sometimes it's debilitating. I've gained weight so I guess I'll be living alone too. I also have a son that I try to be strong for. If you ever want to chat AS FRIENDS only, as I couldn't mentally handle anything else, feel free to IM me. You are not worthless although I feel the same way so often. I wish you a peaceful day.
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