Have i made the right decision to get my mother an apartment? i am her guardian, and she is 53 yrs old?

Question:

she really wanted her own apt, so i got her one. i tried to do a consult with her psychiatrist, who has only seen her a few times (we had to get her a new one) he suggested i could try it, and if it doesent work out i can just send her back to the personal care home. a couple yrs ago she recieved some inheritance, so her state medicade is no longer picking up the tab (she also has medicare)...i figured it would be nice for her to live in a nice way (v/s living in a shabby expensive personal care home that will cost about the same as her living in a nice apt). also, she has never posed an incident at the personal care home and she is not psychotic. i just want to give her a chance. however, i am such a nervous wreck, because her health is not so good, but manageable: she has trouble walking because rehumitoid arthritis, so i figured she can just take a cab to the store (2 blocks away) whenever i cannot take her. i am just soo scared, i wish i had support from my unsupporting family too.

Answers:
I think it's okay to give it a try. Is there a way you could find somebody, like a home care nurse or nurse's aid or other support person like a social worker, to check in on her once a day and stay with her a couple of hours? Or maybe you could find an place/program for her to go during the day to get some companionship and have a meal or two? It sounds like you only want the best for your Mom. Ask around, find any local resources at all that can help or advise you. Best of luck.

Your mom will be ok on her own. I don't know how far away from you she is, but you can always call her daily to make sure that she's alright. You may also want to talk to her neighbors about her health issues and see if they would want to keep an eye on her. Most people wouldn't mind doing this. Pass your phone number to the people who want to help. Good luck to you and your mom!

I would say that depening on her mental state and if you feel it was a good idea the it was. If you could you should see if it is possible for you to maybe make a room in your home like above the garage or something that she could live in if it makes you so scared living so far away

Wow, you are a special daughter. How caring and kind you are to help your mom. Every mom deserves a great daughter like you. I hope you can find a support group or have close friends to talk with. God Bless your sweet heart.

Have i made the right decision to get my mother an apartment? i am her guardian, and she is 53 yrs old?

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