What have I done?
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I DONT KNOW WHAT ON EARTH IS GOING ON!!HELP ME! ADVICE PLEASE!My intuition is telling me to stay away from him
I met a man online in June.He and I started dating on June 20th. We have been seeing each other almost everyday/weekend since.The relationship started to become very uncomfortable.He would make rude comments about me,my home,my up bringing.I told him that I didnt want to be in a relationship anymore.He said"Why,I like you.We can work this out.Lets talk about this.I want you to be my girlfriend." I felt bad for hurting his feelings so we stayed together.I went through a divorce from an abusive man last year and I told this guy about it. When we went skydiving two weeks ago he made fun of the abuse!! He said"All Brian had to do was slap you around to get you to marry him." When we got back home I told him to never call me again.No Emails.Nothing. He called and Emailed and said "Oh,I'm sorry.I only want you to be my girlfriend.I'm so alone!Why wont you be with me?No one wants to be with me!" We got back together.How do I make him go away?Should I just ignore him from now on.I dont know?
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He also keeps insisting that I move to the city that he lives in.I keep asking myself why is he so pesistant about it. I told him that I dont like him anymore.What is wrong with him?
Answers:
You've done nothing wrong shy of allowing
your loneliness to lure you into a very dangerous situation with a possible on-line
predator. This guy sounds like a control freak and wants to isolate you from your own natural habitats so that he can further gain the upper hand on you in order for him to be free to dominate, possess, abuse and more likely kill you.
FOR ALL YOU KNOW, this guy could be a psychopathic serial killer. He already exhibit
several of the main traits that fit the profile
to a tee. He's extremely manipulative; he doesn't own a conscience; he lack empathy
toward others and he's very persuasive.
For your own safety, please steer clear of this sociopathic headcase. I wouldn't want to
read about your mangled body turning up
in some wooded area some place after you have been reported missing some several months prior.
Go out and meet someone who doesn't have to hide behind some computer screen
as an initial pick-up spot. And get to know this person thoroughly before taking down your guards. The Lord spared you this time,
what will you do with your second chance?
God bless you. Love, peace and happiness.
hell no.get away from that freak!!!do it b4 its to late.hes a weirdo.go out with some of ur g/f's for a girl night out and have some fun.there plenty more fish in the sea.good luck
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Please listen and don't become a statistic. This is another abusive relationship and a dangerous one. If you have to, get a restraining order and DO NOT SEE HIM AGAIN.
He is already controlling you and you are falling for it.
There are good men out there. A relationship will not make you happy or make you feel less alone. You have to be happy with yourself first. Work on that. A partner should complement your life, not add stress. You go girl!!
He is mind controlling you. Lose your # and forget about him. If you stay with him He might start abusing you ( God forbid if that happens. ) He sounds wishy washy to me and you gotta enough sense to know he is just a user. Please dont move , fatal mistake. Look there's more fish out in the sea and you dont want this old smelly fish for sure. He is the type that wont take NO for an answer. Stay on your guard. Luck to you cause it sounds like you are gonna need it.
first of all you were in an abusive relationship ( me too) and then you go out with a guy you met on line?? Good god woman are you nuts? Meeting guys on line is a no no!! Bad news. You happen to pick of all the guys a desperate, lonely, obsessive, abusive, rotten man and the only thing to do is DROP HIM and have NO contact with him AT ALL. don't talk to him, don't write letters nothing. If need be tell him if he doesn't leave you alone you'll get a restraining order out on him. The guy treats you like .. and you deserve better. Smart in Up ok! Best of Luck!
give it time. you get to the point where cant handle it.change your email ,and phone number.DON'T HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH HIM
this man has clear control issues you really need to stay away from him don't take his calls or anything anymore no matter what send one email not long straight to the point we are over and don't answer him no matter what he says. also if it keeps up, call the cops its harassment and staking and its illegal. you take control of your life don't please don't let him take control over you.
Please leave that guy alone he's crazy and he might do something crazy to you. I strongly recommend you to stop talking, visiting and emailing this lunatic.
Please stay away from him. Don't respond to his e-mails and don't answer his phone calls. Eventually he should stop calling. It's rough for a while, but you can do it. Keep yourself safe physically and emotionally.
It should be a little bit easier, since you live in different states.
Don't waste you time and life on someone who is not good to you.
HE"S NUTS protect your self tell him do not bother me any more..get protective order.get your gun..some internet daters are crazy
I definitely do not think you should get back together with him. He's showing the classic signs of an abuser by putting you down, and treating you with disrespect and then immediately responding. These types of people thrive on dominating and belittling a person and your life would be miserable with him.
You said that you were married to an abusive man and it sounds like there are still issues within your life that need to be looked at and worked out. For some subconscious reason you're possibly attracted to this guy because he is so disrespectful and maybe at some level think you deserve to be treated badly, I don't know. I don't mean this as a put-down to you, it's just something you need to be aware of.
The reason this guy is probably so persistant is because abusers look for people who are vulnerable and he may very well see you as an easy mark. So my advice is to not be an easy mark and be true to yourself by not seeing him or communicating with him.
I also think it might be a good idea for you to talk with a counselor about the possible reasons you feel attracted to a person who is abusive, just so you can learn to break out of those patterns. A women's shelter near me has group sessions and classes that teach women how to recognise the signs of an abusive person and learn ways to strengthen their self-esteem and establish good boundaries. You may want to call one near you and find out if they offer any such groups or classes.
Be good to yourself and I wish you all the best
He is way too controlling and abusive.
Get out, and never look back
I think the better question is what's wrong with you? You keep going back and he's abusing you.
you got sucked into this abusive relationship after getting out of one.
you need to do some work on yourself to see why you allow yourself to be abused.
you will not change an abuser - you have to let him go.
the good news is you can change - so do it.
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