Help! My boyfriend have set a date to commit suicide.?
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Call the suicide prevention hotline...then arrange an intervention with professional help with his family and friends.
You need to get him into counseling.
make him cancel that date
Try to hire a counselor to help him out. I used to be depressed and thinking just like him. Try to find some of his relatives to help or family. I hope you can solve this problem!
Well, it is selfish of him to make you feel guilty, and it is selfish of him to keep telling you he is going to end his life. Suicide is a sin, and it is a selfish act. Take him to a doctor who can have him committed for a few days, maybe that would help. You are being as supportive as you can, and it is unfair of the stress he is putting on you. I wish I could be more helpful about it.
definetly call someone like the suicide prevention center, also tell him family and everyone, dont waste any time
Set up an event where all your and his family come, support him and donate money or furniture.
try to convince him to stop.if he does it anyway.grieve...mourn and go on with your life. some people just don't want theirs and there's nothing we can do about it....good luck..bk
It sounds like he is manipulating you. If he was really going to hurt himself he wouldn't be announcing it and waiting for a month. He is doing what it takes to look like a victim and have you stay and take care of him. You have to decide how long you are willing to put up with this. Tell him that he can stay there as long as he starts seeing a therapist immediately, and quit letting him use you. You deserve better.
No. I don't believe him. People who commit suicide do NOT wait a month.or a week..or even a day. They do it right then and there. He has no intention of killing himself. He just wants attention--for people to feel sorry for him, to run to him and beg him not to do it, that he has so much to live for..
That's what he wants. I have worked many suicides and not once did the survivors say the victim ever made plans to do it months ago--or weeks--or days. They got depressed and they did it. I would tell this man that he either gets into counseling.or he has to move out. He will suck the very life out of you, too.
ok i know you love him and all--but he has serious issues, he needs to be commited. and by the way- he's set a date to commit suicide, people that are suicidal just do it. others just talk about it, he wants the attention and babying.
tough love! dont listen to his rants about killing himself. tell him you love him and it hurts you when he talks about ending his life and YOUR future.
Well give him the most supporst you can, show him theres something to live for and help him to try to get his livelyhood back on track if you think he will killhimself just call the emergancy services and they will get him help
good luck
I would call a hospital or suicide facility that does interventions ..If they believe its serious enough they may take him in until hes stable. He may be angry with you but in the end its probablly whats best if hes serious about ending his life. You should contact his family as well, if he has any, and get their help.
You need to get the professionals involved now. You arent going to be able to make him want to live and he is just playing you. Get help! NOW!
don't take any checks for rent money from him
put him in the hospital and thy will check him out
Call the police and tell them he has threatened to commit suicide and that you believe he will try. They will come with an ambulance and take him to a hospital. At the hospital they will start him on an antidepressant and begin therapy, and they will send him home once he is safe.
This was done to me, and I was pissed when the cops showed up, but a week later when I came home, I was truly grateful that someone cared so much for me, and I did feel much better.
Good luck.
do something! tell someone ...anyone!! he will thnk you later!
You can't give up on him, he needs you right now so you continue to support him and console him and call all the hotlines possible, tell him that he can start again and make sure that the money is all that's keeping him down. Talk to his family and whatever you do, be there for him.
ok well the first thing is this.
Simply tell him that isn't the way to go out. You can always get money back, and that it doesn't matter to you if he's rich or poor and that you love him *as long as you do* but you're not going to watch him destroy himself. You will be there to support him in most desicions that he makes but that one you can not and will not support. Get him counseling. Seriously.get him help. I stoped my ex from killing herself with a bottle of seraquil and a bottle of tequila so I know a little bit about what I'm talking about here.
I've braught many people away from suicide and a few people have done the same for me. It's an irrational thought to a logical progression of emotions that are too much to handle all at once. So help him handle them at the same time. Talk about his loss of money and how that made him feel. Tell him that he can earn more, that his life is worth more than that. Don't dump him just because he wants to kill himself, that's no good, if anything that will push him over the edge. He hasn't yet, he's alive, that means that there is still a chance to help him out. And if he's saying he wants to kill himself, he probably doesn't *also know this from personal experience* he wants someone to talk him out of it and make him see a brighter side to the picture because he can't do it for himself.
Get him counseling...get it soon, and support him. Also this helped me with a friend that I had to grab a razor from.simply tell him that if he kills himself you will not attend his funeral because that would be supporting the act. And that if he is so selfish as to take himself away from the people who love him then you can't condone that either. So if he dies by his own hand you will not be there to watch him be burried.this is usually an extreme notion that suicidal people get. The understand this because they want people to morn for them to show they cared.and when people don't attend a funeral it's like saying I will not pay my respects to you because you have lost it completely. The get it, it sometimes helps to break them out of the mold long enough to get them help.
you need to get him help fast!...if he won't help himself then you need to help him...call your local mental health agency and ask them for advice...where i live if someone is talking about suicide and is serious about it they can be involuntarily admitted to a psych ward for 72 hours...if it is shown that they are a danger to themselves.maybe he needs to be on medication or something like that...a lot of people that threaten suicide don't really want to die, they just don't know what else to do...it's like being in the bottom of a deep hole and you can't get out of it...and whatever you do, don't tell him that you think that he is a selfish quitter.that just makes it worse...because then he is going to feel guilty...as hard as it is if you love him, please stick by him.he needs all the support he can get.good luck.if you have anymore questions please feel free to email me...i have been through this more times than i care to remember...
This person is not suitable for u as u are a good girl but he is unwise . I am sure he will never do it as he is selfish as u said. He is not wise and childish.
Nice choice of words ... 'dead set' ... on ending his life.
Call your local mental health clinic, tell them what's up, and then run, don't walk, the hell away from him. He's a head case and is using you. He's trying to 'guilt' you into staying around because he's selfish and completely self-centered.
Get away fast!
For You & for him get a professional involved he may say he hates u 4 it but do what ever u got to do- u dont need the guilt if he suceeds+ they are skilled to deal w/ this+==Best wishes to you + him
geez thats heavy. I dunno wut 2 say
this is a really sticky situation you should really try 2 talk him out of it and get him help right away if u don't act know he could try 2 do that sooner even if he doesn't know about it take him somewhere 2 get help and act like u r just going to a normal place mabey u want u and his family there and have your guys' family and u and the therapist 2 try 2 talk him out of suicide because i know this is very,very serious situation.
Have your dad have a man to man talk to him.
Life sucks, tell him to get over it and rebuild unless it was inherited he can always return, money comes easy to those in the know. Just slap him with a reality check tell him get it together or get out, using guilt is not what a man would do but something a little boy would do if he cannot move on you should he is better off without your attention and affection as it is probably holding him back from standing on his own. what is not to trust the shrink is not going to rob him he has nothing to lose but you. move on but keep tabs from a distance if you need 2.
I would find enough friends to assist you in transporting him to a clinic. You can contact a local judge and discuss your concern there may be enough to have him committed for emotional assistance.
Suicide is not the worst sin, all sin is equal in God's eyes. It is the most selfish act a person can commit. I know this is hard for you, but you are dealing with a severely depressed person, loss of wealth can be devastating to a person who only values money and not life. I suggest you get him help, do not feel guilty for telling him he is causing you pain, he needs to reattach to life.
One has to be very careful with people WHO talk about committing suicide, however, you will find that most people who talk about it, don't do it. It is the quiet ones who plan inside their own heads who can end their lives. I am not saying that your boy friend is shaming or trying to make you feel sorry for him, but it could be happening. He should see a competent psychiatrist who could talk to him and give him something to take that will remove the edge. If you feel that his actions are getting you stressed out then you will have to leave him or suffer the consequences. You are in the middle of a very difficult situation and you must think of your own wellfare first.
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