What do I have to do to make myself feel better right now?

Question:

My hamster is going to die from a tumor, I can't believe that she's still alive from it. It's breaking my heart because she's most likely suffering, yet she's still alive. I wish I could do something, but I can't I'll let her die peacefully. I know all living things die. But, I just can't learn to accept this I guess. I know I can't do anything about it, and I know it's going to be ok, but I still feel so much sadness inside of me, and I don't know what I should do about it. Should I get used to this kind of stuff? Or is there really a way to make me better? I just can't seem to forget about this, or get over it or really understand this. I'm pretty sure I understand this, but deep down inside, I'm not sure if I do.

Is there anything I can do to make this go away? Or do I just have to learn to live with it?

Answers:
Death is inevitable for all of us as well as all living things on the planet. You will grieve for her as her caregiver and in order to move on, you should grieve. If you bottle it in, it will only come out at an inopportune time and you won't recognize the reason for it.

Be happy for her as she will soon no longer be in pain and you can remember her when she was alive and healthy. You've done all you can and now should let her go. Your life was graced by knowing her and vice versa. Let your grief out as it is normal to do with a loved one.

I can't say that it will be easier going forward with other people/pets in your life. The easiest and best way to occupy your mind from the grief is when you're ready, get another pet. Nurturing the new pet will take some of the pain away, but that is not to say that you'll forget her. She'll always have a place in your heart and if your heart is big enough, there's room for many.

The only think you can do is accept it. Be glad she had a good life with you. Be glad you did all you could to be a good caregiver. You will never get used to things like this, but over time they become easier to deal with.

You have to live with it. You will have many more deaths occur in your lifetime. You need to learn to just grieve and get it over with. Feel bad---it's ok. You'll get through it faster if you just feel what you are feeling.

Can you pick up and hold your hamster? Or will that make her nervous? It might be nice to be held when you are dying---you know?

You must accept the fact that your hamster is dying. Learn to live with it.

the life is like that.you never will be alive for ever, either animals...but just think we are going after death to another place...you can call this paradise or whatever you want to call...just it is the life...life is dead and dead is life again and again. You need to surpass this situation an understand that dead is part of the life...
good luck

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