My grandmother?

Question:

I am very close to my grandma and here lately I have been getting really worried about her. She has had a pretty hard time these past few years, My grandpa is disabled and her breathing is getting worse as time goes on. Well here lately she has been talking a lot about when her and my grandpa die, I totally understand that she has to think of these things, She has got to get everything in order as far as her will goes but she is obsessing about it and it is getting her really depressed. Today she told me today when she was talking to me about her estate, that the only thing that she has is the graveyard. I don't know what to say to her to make her feel better and to get her mind off of it. I will change the subject and she will go right back to it within five minutes. Please help, I hate to see my grandma so depressed.

Answers:
talk to her about the good times you've shared together,
and try to steer clear of what she's been talking about lately.
if she goes back to it, tell her how you feel and let her know
youre worried about her.

I hope that made sense and I hope it helps.

Pray to Saint Jude

talk about the good moments you have had together?

ask her about her good old days...listen and enjoy every story..laugh and tell her some of yours.talk to her but more than that.really listen. She misses her husband, that is understandable, talk about him with her...if you know any good stories you remember tell her about them. . tell her how much you love her

I love my grandmother very much. She is a devoted Christian/ Catholic. I know she will go to heaven. Perhaps you could remind her of how much her of her children and grandchildren that love and will miss her when she goes to heaven. There is still time for her to work out her salvation daily with the Lord. God is Great and Compassionate. He has more instore for her than she can ask or even think. God Bless you and may the Holy Ghost guide your words.

Take her to a lawyer and have her get her will done. Then take her to buy a funeral plot.
When it is over and done she will feel better, her mind will be at ease.
Remind her of things that she still can do, distract her with the company of other senior citizens... go to bingo or something.

Death is a hard cycle for everyone to take, its the final stage of life and it is something that needs to be prepared for.

Hi!

My Gran was very special to me too and like you I worried about her a lot towards the end of her life.

You say your Grandma is depressed and you seem to have difficulty talking with her about her situation. I don't know how old she is or how close she is to her last days, but it sounds as if she is trying to plan for the inevitable. Because she means so much to you, it is difficult for you to take this on board. Thing is, your Grandma may be a little easier in herself if she knows a few simple things that it is very hard for you to say, like how much you love her and how much you will miss her - and how much you will enjoy the time you still have together.

It sounds like you have a very special bond. You don't say how old you are, but you may benefit from talking this through with a good friend or another relative.

It seems really hard right now, I guess. But the way you and Gran deal with this could make you both stronger in the years ahead.

Good wishes.

Just Pray to GOD HE will Help u n your GrandMa. HE is bigger then everything in the World.

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