Wrecking my life! ?
Question:
social anxiety & i self harm.
* I'm so lonely life is getting unbearable.
* Dn't have friends as i've been in hospital & lost contact with them.
*My family don't get on with me.
*i'm so empty & depressed.
*I have a psychiatrist,social worker,nurse etc etc but i feel no-one understands me.
*Past few days i've took extacy to feel better & im so ashamed of myself.
Things are getting so bad now that i've been thinking of ending my life.I'm so confused and alone.
Please Someone help??
Thanks
Answers:
Clare,
I know sometimes it feels like our lives are ruined. Remember, life is a novel. It is ok to have a bad chapter here and there. Try if you can to be kind to yourself right now...don't be too critical. You are tremendously important.the most miraculous of all things. A living person. Ask for help...give yourself some time to heal. Above all if you feel like you are going to hurt yourself.call your psychiatrist or 911. Even if you don't believe it at the moment, the world is a better place with you in it. Your book is just starting out.there are chapters ahead about love and marriage.children and motherhood.and somewhere there is a triumphant chapter, still waiting to be written, about how you overcame the hardships of life and wrote a brilliant and amazing story.hang in there. I want to read your book someday! :) Attached are some links that might help.
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Reach out to your family immediately, and tell them how you feel. Please get past your petty differences with them, and reconnect with the people that should be most important in your life. If you feel yourself edging closer to a crisis, please call your local emergency hotline or 911 to get some immediate help.
You obviously have the tools to get better. Question is, Do YOU want to get better? Your 19 years old, life is just beginning. We all have hard times but it's how we handle those time that define who we are as people. I know things will get better for you. Being alone isn't that bad. It's time to reflect and see what it is you want in life. You need to love yourself before others can love you.
Stay Strong! It will always get better.. I promise! God Bless
*HUGS* I'm really sorry deary.
What I found is best is to get away from myself. You really need to find someone you can go hang out with or do something with.
A job is a lot of help, since you meet new people and get away from your own life.
When/if you get to know someone, you can lose your own problems when you are with them. You will be able to get away.
I hope you can find a reason to stay alive. The quote that kept me alive was
"The man who kills himself today, will wish he had lived another week"
Look foreward to something. Not everything can be so horrible, there HAS to be something that brings you joy (please not drugs, please not drugs).
Please realize that you have 50+ years to live. And ANYTHING can happen in them. It may be bad, but you gotta keep going.
You have all these professional workers and no one to help you. It sounds like you need a FRIEND to help you. Maybe the friends you're out of touch with are afraid they're going to say something that will upset or depress you further. That's what I found out when I went thru my depression. I told my friends that I need to hear their stories/problems, too because then I knew I wasn't the only one. Maybe go to a depression support group and make a friend. Talk to a minister and get involved in a youth group. Explain that you want to start you life over and get a grip on reality. Then, slowly start new friendships. One of the biggest things I did was to start a journal. I poured my feelings out. I wrote things down as if I were speaking to someone. No one read it.
DO NOT END YOUR LIFE!! Stop the extasy. Do they have you on any type of anxiety medication? If so, do not stop taking them. I hope this helps you.
Your life isn't ruined you had a bad day/week/month/year. That is just a moment in your life. There will be more. Living alone can be very lonely and then become very depressing. No one to talk to or argue with or even just plain be there. If you have a bad day you end up venting to you cat who just bites your foot and runs off... I get what your saying, except the ecstasy part. As temping as that is you really should stop using drugs, it feeds you disorders.
Here's some ways to pull out of that.
*Take up lessons on something, anything. A dance class, a sewing class, martial arts... anything. Colleges offer fun class's and so do gyms. The idea is it will get you out and meet people.
*Volunteer. Helping others gives that sense of you are needed. The dog at the pound needs you to walk him and feed him. When I was depressed it was often because I didn't feel needed.
*Join a team. This goes along with feeling needed. It could be as simple as bowling as long as it's getting out and doing something.
*Exorcise. Take a walk or jog in the area. Exorcising releases endorphins that are the brains "feel good" chemical. It does what drugs try to do only safely and naturally. If you go to a park bring a pocket full of dog bones and ask dog owners if you can give one to them. It's a good conversation starter.
Keep in mind life is what you make it. So make it fun.
Just hang in there.
Sometimes the most terrible situations in life seem to right themselves after a time, and you find a happiness in the long run that you would have never thought possible.
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