How to handle people with negative attitudes towards me? please help!?
Question:
Why does people show such part of their personalities towards others? Is by pulling down someone the only way to feel secure and competent.? What is going to be the end result of all this?.I am completely wrecked by my situation because I cannot run or hide from these people as some of them are going to stay with me for lifetime...and some for few years atleast!
By contastly creating negative environment around me, seems to me like a group activity in collaboration sponsered by the masterminds of the group to stop me from becoming the highest achiever.
Will I have to end my life as I cannot do anything about it?
Answers:
No you do not need to end your life.
You need to keep your hopes and dreams to yourself so these people won't know your personal goals and then cannot be critical of them. If they believe you don't have any goals, then that's fine because you secretly know you do. It's your own business anyway.
Try to keep their focus on themselves and off of you so you can work on keeping your own attitude the way you want it. Stop allowing their opinions to matter.
I know its not easy, but you can do it.
I think I understand what you're saying. People seem all happy and cheerful when it comes to their lives, but when they look at yours they say negative comments about it? Well, from what I can tell these people are trying to make themselves feel better by putting you down. If you have to stay around them, try to talk to them about it. If you can't, then try to ignore it. It's their own stupidity for putting you down. In the end they'll be the ones hurt.
Just don't listen to them and keep moving on. They say your life means nothing? Prove them wrong!
usually people such as "your friends" are the real ones with the problems. if someone has to put another individual down it is only because they them selves have issues and are not and never have been your friend... look.. you can never control what another does.. you can choose to ignore it or let it mess with you.
Most people have so much to deal with in their own lives that they do not have the time or desire to make the effort to be so purposely negative to someone all the time. If you think that everyone you are closely associated with does this, it likely means that there are some very negative vibes coming from you and their actions are just a reflection of your own negative attitude. You need to speak with a qualified therapist.
We all run into someone like that in life every now and then, but for eveyone to be like that, something else is going on.
they lack culture. ignore such group .u can do without them&b successful
stand up for yourself when their talking to you say what what speak properly when their talking about you say do you smell something be totally obnoxious when they got their favourite program on read book out loud right through it
becoz they stand to gain by pulling u down,as u r their competitor, this act of theirs proves u r the best and the only way for them to survive is pull u down or throw u out. u have 2 options continue ur work without caring or leave this work and join else where
Do not end your life. Yes people put down others becuase they are insecure. They want to keep you off balance becuase they know that if you get everything lined up and working, you'll grow to another level that they are afraifd to attempt.
There's an old story about the egg that fell out of the eagle nest. It rolled down the cliff and eventually laneded in a chicken coop. One of the chickens sat on the egg and the egg hatched. Well, the little eagle grew up eating like the chickens, and scratching like the chickens and not flying, like the chickens. Then one day by accident, the eagle looked up and saw another majestic eagle soaring in the sky. He saw how the high flying eagle flapped his wings and sailed across the blue sky.
He look at the eagle and looked at himself and realized that he wasnt a chicken at all, but a majestic eagle. He started running toward the chicken coop fence. The other chickens began to laugh as the eagle started flapping his wings. The laughed until the baby eagle took off and soared into the sky and never returned to the chicken coop.
Moral of the story: Sometimes we end up in the chicken coop, but when we see ourselves as God has made us, then we can fly.
Stay positive, beleive in yourself, and pray.
Good luck.
I would think leaving the situation would be desirable before ending your life. Sometimes our perspective of what others are trying to do is all that is really wrong. I know I am guilty of this, the danger is that eventually the prophesy fulfills itself and the people you thought hated you, do. stop trying to see the negative, start trying to see the positive in what they say and do, maybe it is innocent?, good luck. leave them, before you leave life.
First,take some time and think as to why ppl around you are behaving in such a negative manner,specifically towards you.There ought to be some reason,rite? Maybe,you have a pessimistic attitude about life,which people realise and hence enjoy pulling you down.
Come on, be strong ! Does anyone think of ending his life for such petty reasons? Let people kno that you are not someone who takes things lying down.Stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you can't make them shut up,then the best way out is to simply ignore them,act as if they don't exist at all,clear your mind from all these clutters and go ahead,achieve what you want !!
Life's too short to be wasted on silly and worrying thoughts.
Friend, following are some pointers:
1. The most important thing that you need to do is to stop paying heed to what your so-called pals tell/act in front of you. When they act like that purportedly, don't let them realise that you're even a bit uncomfortable, else they'll over-do what you don't like. You have to start pretending that you're not bothered with what's going on. This will help.
2. Listen to your favorite music or talk to your best of friends/relatives that you love talking to. Think big and think good. Whatever 'negative' things that your pals do, will definitely get overshadowed. Make them realise that you're above all this.
3. Come what may, believe in the fact that you're the best at whatever you do, and no one, yes no one, can bring an iota of difference in the way you think/act/dress/behave..
Life would definitely become a lot easy to live. All the best :)
see, negative people r the biggest nuisance and they r full of negativity that they wanna throw it out.... and victim in this case can be anyone so unfortunately u r one of the victims but not to worry at all most of the times, criticism is borne out of jealousy and shortlived. the best way is to ignore them for all and rest part can take care of itself. all the best.....
You should not end your life. Practice patience. Have faith in God. Finally, they will end their own lives.
Frist don't do the things that they cant Like.and do not miss any moment to make him happy.Means You have tight your Friend relationship with them.
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