Will I ever feel any better?
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I am just curious, did you reach out to your parents for help?
It will get better if you stop trying to change yourself.
Who you are is freedom itself. Free of any labels and thoughts about it.
You just have to realize that school is just a small part of life. You will graduate from school and move on to bigger and better things. In the end you will look back and realize school was just a small part of a bigger whole. It just seems like it 's this huge thing because you are going through it now. By the way if you want to change the person you are you have to change your actions your behavior. I decided a few years ago I wanted to play the guitar. So I started taking guitar lessons and playing everyday. At first people though oh how nice. Now people call me a muscian. I change my life by changing my actions.
Don't worry things will get better, i am 14 and am currently getting treatment. my doctor put on on Zoloft too. sometimes these medications, can take, days, weeks, even a couple months, to work. just hold on tight, and hang in their if you need someone to talk to you can always email me and i will give you my numbers and some good support lines and centers
your doctor and social worker mean to help you, and try talking to your parents, or Friends.
love yourself for who you are, even if you did a few bad things in life. i except you and i know what your going thru don't Be afraid to talk.
Good Luck
When I had similar problems, I quit school and started doing it over the internet, It really helped because I didn't have to be around the people who made me feel really insecure. (peers).
Depression is all about friends and family. You cant change any of that so it is more difficult. Try to see the chemicals are from your own brain when expectations had to be erased. They will wear off as the fluid is cleaned but it is very slowly done. Best to find someone else who is like you and learn from them.
I'm not going to tell you what to do because frankly I think you already know what you want and that is acceptance. If you aren't able to make friends too easily at your school, then here's a suggestion - ask you're parents to enroll you in a different school or see if you qualify for home-study. But honestly I truly think a new school would be the better choice. Also, about the feelings you are having...that is pretty much normal for anyone. I am 34 and still single. I have a great career but no one to share my life with. I try not to worry and just take each day as it comes. I think its a conscious decision not to do something so awful that it will cause hate for myself in the morning.such as eatting a slice of pizza and then punishing myself the next day. Why put yourself through that? Your best friend should be yourself first. If you aren't comfortable in your own skin, then how can you expect anyone to want to be around you? Its good that you are seeing a social worker. If you can't open up to your parents or a family friend, then open up to the social worker. You never know where you will find a friend. Just be open minded and enjoy life for today. You don't have to be sad. Go do what you like to do most, if thats visiting the beach, hiking, riding your bike or a horse. Just do it. You don't know where your life will take you so just enjoy each day as it comes. Once you figure out what you want from yourself, you will be suprised at how fast your world will expand. Good luck sweety!
.i'm sorry you can send me an email if you'd like.
being a teenager is very difficult. Learn to like yourself for who you are dear. You need to be comfortable about you first and stop worrying about what others think. it needs to come from inside you.
It does get easier as you become older and mature. Try to be true to yourself that is the most important thing of all.
Part of being a kid is that your made fun of... Yes this is a sad fact. i hated that too, but truthfully i do not know anyone who has not been teased at some point . the teasers are the ones who are insecure, they do it to feel better about themselves.
bieng refused by evry one wouldn't kill u but thinking about that maybe do if u was really good persone u will find very good persons who will love to be urs
and if u agree i can be ur online friend
I can kind of understand where you're coming from because both of my brothers have been down that path, and one is still suffering from it. The oldest- 24 started doing drugs when he was 15, did terrible in school, pushed everyone that he loved away, flunked college, got discharged from the marines, went to rehab multiple times, hurt my parents deeper than they can recover, and is still slipping back into his old habits. You can see, it's a life long struggle- not just an easy fix. My brother who's 15 sold some drugs at school, got expelled, was drinking, smoking (even though he has asthma),tried drugs, and was basically ruining his life. Since November, he has completely turned his life around but it's going to be hard. He was prescribed Zoloft too, and still see's a therapist. See- there are people out there that are alot like you: most teens try smoking and alcohol and I get pressured to do it when I go over to people's houses and parties, but it's best just to say no. If you try it once, the next thing you know, your spinning out of control and you cant stop. E-mail me and I'll give you my sn because I know exactly what you're going through and maybe I can help.
I get what you are saying. Ready to start life as an adult and everyone just telling you to be a kid. My daughter was 15 and ready to start life so I just helped her to do what she wanted to and now she is 17 and going great.
You can email me if you want. diascio@yahoo.com.au
Who told you that people make fun of you? Was this a so called friend? I think not.
Many young people realise who they are at an early stage in life, but our society is not geared to accept this. "you must be an adult to do .. " etc.
The best thing I can say is that there are a lot of people who are going through similar or have gone through it and now are adults.
I also suggest that Zoloft will not actually help.
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And shame on Dazza for not being honest with everyone here.
First of all you need to take Zoloft daily for about one month before you see any affect on your mood. Taking one dose isn't going to help you.
Fourteen is a hard age...you want to be accepted by everyone and not stand out. You said you think you're too mature for your age...use that to your advantage. If friends offer you drugs just say 'no'. You'll find out that others will look up to you for standing up for what you believe in. As far as people making fun of you at school...I wouldn't put too much stock in to that. Some kids say stuff like that just because they're jealous.
You'll find that things will get better as an adult only you'll have different responsibilities. Good luck.
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Just a thought kiddo. Zoloft won't work for a week or so.It has to build up in your system. Give it a try and see if your outlook is less gloomy. Hang in there teenage years are an emotional rollercoaster!
You know I used to feel unsure of myself and felt that everyone didn't like me when I was 15. I got the same sort of compliments from strangers or people that my family knew but at school it was also very different. The girls were very cruel and I took everything to heart and was highly sensitive to what I perceived as being very negative comments coming from those who were either jealous or people who just judged me as being either stuck up or too goody goody two shoes for them. Life goes on after high school and take it from me it doesn't really matter in the big world wether you were a high school cheer leader or a wall flower focus on the good comments and don't worry so much about the students at school because at that age they are just as insecure as you are or maybe even more so. I am by the way 42 yrs old now but I did feel like you do at times like no one knew me and all alone but these are tough years for almost every teen ager and you will and can feel better starting right now.
Aww hunny being a teenager isn't fun i know. People are judgey and can be mean just to fit in. The people who act like your friends and are acting embarrassed of you aren't; they are just embarrassed of themselves. Anyone who is mean to you isn't worth being your friend. As for the zoloft you need to tell your social worker about what you are feeling and what you have taken; it will make it a lot easier for them to do their job and it will make things easier for you in the end. You are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders and you don't nee to be. Everything seems hard now, but it will get better.
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JUST BY READING YOUR QUESTION YOU SEEM VERY SWEET, I WOULDNT CHANGE FOR ANYBODY, AND FOR THOSE PEOPLE WHO WANT YOU TO, WILL THERE NOT YOUR FRIENDS. WHAT I WOULD DO IS JUST BE YOURSELF AND FIND DRIFFERENT PEOPLE TO HANG WITH. YOU DONT HAVED TO DO THINGS OTHER PEOPLE DO JUST TO FIT IN, IFTHEIR YOUR FRIENDS THEY WILL EXCEPT YOU AS YOU ARE AND STILL BE YOUR FRIEND ITS NOT THAT YOU DONT FIT IN ITS THE PEOPLE YOUR AROUND THAT DONT FIT IN. SO FROM HERE ON GO FIND PEOPLE THAT FITS YOU. GOOD LUCK!
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Do not feel so alone, because your not. This is a time in your life where your mind and body are changing and your hormones are on an extreme roller coaster ride. Just when you think that your about to cope - BOOM - Drama steps right in and there ya go again. Please, don't be so hard on yourself, believe it or not "YOU WILL GET THRU THIS". Believe me when I say, Except " yourself"...stand-up for what you know is right and true..don't worry about the people who try and change you...be who you are. Please do not hate who you are until you really know who you are. You may end up liking yourself just fine. It is OK to say "not for me, thanks". It does get better as you get older as long as you are true to what is right, no matter what you look like, stuff like that just shines thru. It doesn't matter how many clicks you belong to or how many boyfriends you have or if your hair is blue or green or maroon, or you have pierces or not, or if you weigh 200 lbs or 90 lbs...these are all superficial things that can change at your choosing...but don't let them define who you are. It is OK to be the different one...go ahead and let your light shine thru...you will see and it will be alright. ~Blessings~
Being young is hard for alot of people your age. I felt like this when I first started high school. And to make things worse my freshman year, the one friend I thought I had told me that she had so many friends that she didn't need me as a friend anymore. But by my senior year I was pretty popular, I had tons of friends and hung out with alot of people. More people knew who I was than I knew who they were, and guess who nobody liked, my ex-friend. High school is so much better than grade school as long as you make the best of it. Who have to get involved!! Join clubs, organizations, sports if your able. Don't worry things will get better..being an adult is hard too, sure you have more freedom, but you have way more responsibilities which sucks so bad...cause you don't have time for alot of fun anymore! And you don't see any one anymore. After you graduate you go into a kinda bummed state. You don't see anyone, that you were used to seeing everyday, except maybe for a few close friends, and REAL LIFE just smacks you in the face. No more club meetings, no more sports games, no more anything!! I have always been mature for my age and I think that was why I had so much trouble fitting in when I was younger...nobody was up to my level yet. Just don't give up.ok. I mean the difference between my life at freshmen year and senior year were like night and day. I am a totally different person now; I can't even imagine why I was the way I was when I was your age. God I was so stupid. Adolescence is supposed to be wishy washy...it's a learning process.you have to learn who you are and how you are going to live your life. Don't be pressured by your peers..if they do things that you are not comfortable with.then obviously that is not your crowd...move on. Smoking is so nasty.not a good road to head down! So just be healthy, friendly, and involved!! Those should help out a ton!!
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