Please Help : Teenage Query?
Question:
I started High School four years ago, two years in I was sick of being an outsider so I got in with the wrong group. I start drinking, doing bad a school (not terrible but not as good) I became mean to people. I havnt lost my virginity but I did perform oral sex once ( i was drunk and expirimented on the other sex - turned out i didnt like it, its not my thing) The guy doesnt know my name or where i live, but im afraid he'll tell some one, even though hes in the closet. He doesnt know anything about me bar my cell number.
After all that I just realised I was spiralling out of control. Ive broke away from the people who influenced me. My old friends are slowly talking to me again.
Please give me advice how to get back on the right track.
Answers:
Well it seems you are already taking the right steps to being back on the right track. you know lots of people try things when they are younger so your not the first and I very much doubt you will be the last. don't beat yourself up about it you are back on the right track and with your old friends. get back to your studying and don't worry about those that think your an outsider as in the future it will be them on the outside and not you. good luck take care
I'm only 14 and I think I'm following your path. I got buzzed last night for the first time, I madeout with my friends(girls), I just bought a pack of cigarettes, and I don't know who I am anymore. Reading your answer made me feel less misunderstood, but I just want to move, start a new school, be a new person. Can YOU help me?
You're already where you need to be, stop trying to change where and who you are. that is unnecessary: who you are isn't subject to change & where you are is here now and this will always be true.
It's sounds as though you are already getting back on the right track! Pat yourself on the back for that. First place, none of this is really a disaster. People do stuff like this all the time. It doesn't matter how many times you fall down as long as you keep getting up.
It sounds like you are not too happy about yourself right now. Don't worry if you fall back into some of the old habits. Just get up, brush yourself off, and keep going. That is the trick in life is to just keep going.
Inside ourselves there is something that tells us when things are right for us or wrong. Keep looking for that special place in yourself. Look for beauty, for goodness. also, when you are tempted to get down on yourself, remember, it is not all about you. Everyone else out there is feeling, at least at times, like they are really not making it. Then they hide how they feel from each other. Feeling bad about yourself is just a trap to get you to spiral down and down and down. The world needs you. Other people need you. So get up, brush yourself off, try to eat right, take care of yourself, take care of other people, take a walk, look at the beautiful sky, the flowers, music, have fun, work hard, cry hard, really live. If it were easy, where would the challenge be?
Remember that sex is something that has to be a strong urge so that we keep having more humans. So, if you got caught and made a mistake, that doesn't mean that it can't be beautiful for you and the right person someday. Now you know that casual sex is not for you. Make it beautiful next time. Watch the alcohol/drugs as they make people who aren't really attractive seem to be the right one.
So, keep going! You're doing great. Try to find beauty and love and you will find it.
I was in a similar position. But these people got me into trouble with the police, for something I had no involvement with at all. I was blackmailed, used and hurt. I nearly got expelled because of these people.
But you have to know that you're not the bad one. Just forget about that guy. If he's in the closet, he's not going to go and tell everyone. At least now you know it's not for you. Teenagers experiment with their sexuality, its not just you.
You are probably a better person now. You know that that's not how you want to be and you'll appreciate you're old friends.
Don't hang out with those other people, you can say hello, but realise you're putting yourself in a huge risk.
I've been there and I make good choices with my friends now
well things will get better. I have felt like dying...alot of people have but I always think that someday things will be much better. like after it rains a ray of light parts the clouds type thing...
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