Anyone have a girlfriend with borderline personality disorder and what happened?
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listen being borderline is not the bee all and end all of the girl. we may have problems but that does not mean we can not lead a meaningful life and have a good relationship. I have been with my partner long enough to know our life together works just fine. We have 4 great kids and love them to death. I mean we do have our ups and downs and maybe a little more then most but then no relationship is prefect and you really can't pick who you fall in love with now can you. good luck take care
Why did you have one? can you tell us what she was like? I've met plenty of boys with personality problems, but not so many girls, I guess I just don't pay attention to girls as much as guys.
I did, even married her. Got divorced eventually, why let her waste your life as well as hers. Go find somebody normal. I wish somebody had told me that, I wasted 8 years with the stupid cow.
Going out with any person with personal problems is always a challenge. You will be fighting a battle on two fronts the whole time - first having a relationship which is never easy in any circumstance, and then trying to guess and second guess what is going on in your girlfriend's head, which will be ever changing and won't make any sense. On the other hand, you'll never be bored, which is why I've consistently chosen the crazies my whole life!
First off how old are you? If you are younger it may be more difficult to be able to deal with someone suffering from this disorder. As you probably know, they have a lot of issues to deal with and it will take a lot of patience and understanding of this disorder to be able to have a good relationship. My daughter suffers from this and it is a challenge to all of us in her life to be supportive, understanding, but also not let her get away with too much at the same time. Find out as much as you can from a good reliable source about this, such as a mental health center.
i have BPD and i bet i can tell you that your probably in a love hate relationship. One minute she is crazy about you the next does not want nothing to do with you.. She is moody, and is prone to anger outbursts. She could be addicted to other harmful, self destructive behavior and threaten suicide or self harm.
I am certain I am on the mark. It takes one to know one.
I married her not knowning she had BPD. It has been a very difficult life for me, our children and my family. Be carefull about getting further attached to her. If you end up getting married and having children with her and then want to leave the relationship... expect hell. life is hell for me now.
I am married to one. I did not know it early in the relationship but after years and $$$$$$ of individual and couples therapy things are not any better. After 14 years of dealing with their substance abuse, threats of suicide, rage and anger, reckless behavior and severe mood swings I am pulling the plug and setting myself free. Trying to please a BDP is a no win game. I am just thankful we did not subject children to this mess. My advice is cut your losses early and run.
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