What's up with a person who never cleans their house, or washes a load of clothes, even if they have a washer,
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There is a type of anxiety disorder that has only been recognised fairluy recently which is a Hoarding Disorder and it can take many disguises.
Pretty much the person who is plangued by anxiety (whether or not you can tell or not) is unable to start the whole cleaning process and procrastinates so much that the task seems overwhelming to them and unobtainable. To even think about how to clean it brings on huge anxiety.
It is really really easy to judge people by our own standards and it must be hard for you to sit back and watch those kids live in squalor when the answer seems so easy for you. For her it might be insurmountable.
I know it is yukky and unhygienic but those kids are going to be ok even if they wear filthy clothes and live in a pigpen (by the pigs are very clean animals). UYou rae best off either keeping away from her so you dont become frustrated or do sometehing to help her (and I dont mean help her clean).
She may need a good friend to confide and one that wont judge her. Some anxiety disorders are very very hard to overcome and on the outside it seems just plain stupid. You would be better off being a kind and good person and being her friend rather than asking her about the mess.
It depends on what you want. IF you want to truly help her then stop judging her and find out why she is so messy and life is hard for her.
If you just want to ***** about how messy she is get over it and leave her alone
She's effing lazy. The person needs to be pushed for sure. Offer to help though. It's hard to get motivated by yourself.
Maybe she's too busy with the 7 kids.
Or lazy.
Because she is a fuking lazy mo' fuker
Sounds to me like she's chronically depressed. No point in nagging her about the mess.
It sounds like you care about her. Gently and TACTFULLY suggest that she get medical help. She may not know what a difference appropriate medication can make.
she's lazy, if you really are concerned about the welfare of her seven kids then call social services on her
It sounds like she is depressed or has some sort of pack rat disorder. The seratonin levels in her brain need to be increased. Depending on the severity of her disorder she can take St. John's Wart. It takes about 4-6 weeks for the levels to stabalize in her brain, but it does help. If she has a severe case, she needs to see a doctor who can prescribe medication to her. You also have to remember that this woman has 7 kids. This could be a side effect of having so many children.
Why don't you go to her house and help her clean up? It might give her the motivation that she needs to take the steps in the right direction.
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This woman may be clinically depressed or suffer from ADD. Yes, I said ADD. Adults with ADD are very disorganized. If you combine the two conditions it would explain a lot.
She may not be able to get up and do these things on her own. Depression robs you of life!
You pointing out the very obvious mess IS going to make her feel defensive. Believe me, she is aware of it and wishes it would go away, but is incapable of doing much about it. She feels embarrassed and ashamed. When the mess is so big she can't see a way out of it, because she can't focus on doing the clean up long enough for it to make a difference, so she feels defeated before she even starts. And so she doesn't even try.
She does need medical help and therapy. It will take a long time, if ever , for her to be "normal" in your eyes.
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