Why is it so hard to express my feelings?
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A good way to learn to communicate better is by writing down all your thoughts. I've been to therapy myself and have learned that the better you convey your thoughts, dissapointments, beliefs, and feelings the more they are able to help you. It will take time but this is what you should do.
1. Write down your feelings about certain situations, or what
ever you want to get off your chest.
2. After you write it down elaborate on it and add details
change things around that don't make sense.
3. Read it that final time and see how it sounds, then put it in
your purse or wallet.
4. So when you talk to a person briefly look over it and that way you already know what you want to say. This is especially good when you go to therapy.
This is a good way to start off. Eventually you will get better at communicating and won't need to write it down. The key thing to remember is get your thoughts together in your head first then speak.
Try it and tell me how it goes. You can check out my profile and email me personally. God Bless you honey!!!
Well, when I spoke to my school counselor about my depression and suicidal thoughts, I began to start crying and tearing up since I was obviously hurting so much about the feelings I was experiencing. Your body reacts when you talk to soemone about your emotions, and your body apparently feels upset when you express them. You can always talk to friends or family or counselors around should your feelings be bad or whatever.
because i don't trust other people. they may pretend to be listening to me but really you never know
I also often have a hard time expressing my feelings. Most of the time it's because I'm not sure what my feelings are. Feelings are such a funny phenomenon. I think it's good therapy to write about your feelings. Maybe you could bring it to your therapist and read it aloud. Good luck
I do that too! I can't tell anyone how I feel. For me it is because I am scared about their reactions- I am afraid they will look at me differently. Like if I tell someone how I feel, I worry about what they think about me after I told them what I feel and I worry their opinions about me will change. I also don't like being vulnerable infront of everyone. Maybe that is why you can't express your feelings either. I don't know if that is why but I hope this answer helps and I hope everything works out 4 you! =)
im the same i dont know why. like me im a dude and i feel that if i say something bout my feelings people think im a queer so i dont say nothing. i guess that doesn't answer your question but at least you know your not the only one
You did not clarify what you meant by it comes out all the wrong way. If it comes out in anger, you might have borderline personality disorder.
I had the same problem. For other reasons I began therapy.
Prior to my divorce, my husband asked me what was wrong. I told him that I didn't know.
He blew up and started screaming at me that he didn't believe me. How could I not know how I felt about something?
Well, in therapy I learned that I had kept everything inside and never learned how to express my feelings. I really didn't know what I felt. My therapist had to coax me, practically put words in m mouth because I could not identify my feelings with words.
The first one he worked on was "anger." He knew that was a major problem but I didn't.
It has taken a long time but I can now identify my feelings which allows me to express my feelings.
If you think this might fit you, try and figure out what you are feeling and put a word with it.
Practice.
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