Material things won't make you happy!? but cutting will.?
Question:
im 14
i have no friends
i was born with a clef lip(dont look like others)
i get frustraded because i admit I get jealous cause other people look normal and I don't
I used to cut(don't anymore)
cutting was the only thing that made me happy
how do I make myself happy in a way that isn't that
ive tried to just be happy but it doesn't work
try to fit in with other people wear stupid pink stuff that I hate and listen to music that I hate
but that only made me worse!
what can I do to make myself happier withput having to sacrafice who I am?
Answers:
When you accept who you are- I'll garantee that you'll be happier. That's the first step, 2nd- stop trying to be something that you're not, be who you are & I think people will like you better. 3rd- it doesn't matter what people think about you, the inside is what counts, & if you're not a B i t c h- I apologize for my language but if you have a great personality & you're nice with people, then people won't care how you look at the outside- they'll look at you as a great person. I know jealousy can be an issue to you right now, but it's just not you- many people are jealous of other's wether they look normal or not you just need to accept what you are & how God made you. You're like that for a reason- maybe is because your SPECIAL- stop cutting yourself because it's only going to make things worse, & if you're having a hard time accepting yourself now- what makes you think that you won't use "having scars- from cutting. because it makes me happy" as an excuse to hate yourself more. Get a journal, write things down- I looked at your profile & you sure love poetry & music. Why is it making you unhappy now? You know how many people have imperpections? Plenty! No one's perfect...plain & simple. We all have to deal with it and live with it for the rest of our lives, or else live miserable. I rather be "not perfect, happy & glad to be alive" then to be "unhappy with myself & miserable all the time" you don't think? Looks don't last forever anyways- it'll fade as years go by. You're still young, learn how to appreaciate yourself & how you look, the beauty is not on the outside- but in the inside. YOU'RE JUST DIFFERENT & IT'S GOOD TO BE DIFFERENT.There's plenty of people that looks good on the outside- but sometimes when you get to know them- they're either a$holes or B i t c h e s. That's why many people say "don't judge the book by it's cover" . Love yourself, be happy with yourself, find things that make you happy other than cutting yourself, write how you feel down on a piece of paper & read it aloud to yourself- maybe it will teach you something, or speack with an adult about the things that bother's you, maybe they can help you become a better person. I hope this helps, I tried my best, Good Luck & God Bless! No matter what are the imperfections you have- you're still beautiful- if you wan't to be.
Good Luck!
The bottom line is, being 14 sucks. I didn't have a clef lip, but I remember pretty much hating all the kids I went to school with. I had nothing in common with any of them, and I found them all to be very annoying and self-centered.
My best advice is to continue being yourself. Wear what you like, listen to the music you like, etc. Don't give a crap about what anyone else has to say about you. Make yourself happy and the rest will (eventually) fall into place. Trust me, life after high school is MUCH better. Maybe you can find some friends online, too. Good luck and hang in there.
What do you mean by cutting? If you are cutting class, you are only hurting yourself and your family. The schools don't really care if you don't get an education.
If you are cutting your SKIN, stop it and get medical help. This requires medical help and guidance.
You need to like yourself before others will like you. Keep in mind that beauty fades quite quickly and your brain is actually your best asset. I went to my 10 year class reunion and a lot of the class beauties looked like anorexic hags. The men, though, actually looked good.
Well for starters, trying so hard to act like other people will never work, you want people to like you for being you, not for your acting skills. Being fourteen can be really depressing, I know, and having something that sets you apart can make it worse, but it doesn't have to. If you can't find people who have similar interests at school, reach out farther, the internet is a good place to start. Don't ever sacrifice who you are, bacause in the end you won't even recognize yourself or know what to do with yourself when you graduate. That's far worse than looking different.
your a girl right? you should be proud to be different and people should like you for who you are not what you try to be. try making friends in your class with people or join a club or something and meet people there. if you get really upset about your apperance then as a very drastic measure you could allways ask you mum to get plastic surgery. i dont think you should do that though as it might not e the right thing to do. speak to your mum or dad about how you feel
i hope you get better and congrats on not cutting anymore
Theres nothing wrong with how you are! If you can tell me one person who is born perfect you let me know and i would love to meet them. Being different make you unique. Try taking up a sport, a job, a book, or some sort of hobby that will take your mind off things. If other people know you're cutting, they will send you to a clinic and you will only get more frustrated. Try talking to your doctor and tell them how you feel. They will probably prescribe you antidepressants, but start at a low dose then if you need to work your way higher (only if needed).
been there, done that. at 14 i was in 8th grade and i would cut the s*** out of myself. because i was depressed. everyone goes through depressed times. but ill tell you something that helped me out a lot, dont wear and listen to what you do not like. fight for it. if your parents dont like it, they will get over it. if your friends dont like it, then i guess they arent real friends right? wear what you want, listen to what you want. to overcome cutting you must just feel like yourself altogether. once you establish the fact that you feel comfortable in what you wear and listen to. and it doesnt matter if you listen to death metal and rap. i listen to a lot of different types of music and i have finally met friends that dont care what i wear or listen to, my parents dont care anymore becuase i dont cut myself. when i had to stop cutting, i listened to music, any type of music that makes me feel better after a little bit. pick up an instrument it will make you focus and get your mind off of wanting to cut. punch a wall. paint. write. play a game. call someone that you currently trust and talk to them about it. basically anything that can make you focus and sort of get lost in, do it. it sure helped me out.
See teens, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris... on page 13, and check out the tips at the mental-health-abc & conquering stress websites, on page 2, and practise daily, and when needed, one of the relaxation techniques. Consider corrective surgery, when older.
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