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You need professional help. Get a therapist to work through your self esteem issues. Even if this person does want to be with you, until you are happy with yourself, you will find ways to ruin the relationship that you don't feel you are entitled to.
By the way, most of us aren't obsessed with physical appearance. The media tells us we should be, and tweens and teens listen. As you get older, you realize that physical appearance is meaningless, and personality counts.
Absolutely, go for it!
if you dont tell him how you feel NOW..
you'll end up getting hurt SOONER or LATER anyways..
i think you should go for it..
if he rejects..
it is better than being constantly worried and confused..
and if you dont tell him..
the next time you see him holding a girl..
you'll regret that you never expressed ur feelings 2 him..
be bold!!
Yes, you can. You have to realize that you were made for a special purpose and plan. There is sombody out there who will look past your past and love you for who you really are. You have to be able to get past your past and find those things that you are really good at and be happy with who you are. If this wonderful, beautiful man doesn't see that then he is not the right one for you and you are better off with out him. Yes, it will hurt, but have your cry and move on to better seas.
you could work on boosting your self-esteem. now that there are scars, you need to be able to be ok with that. don't feel like they are a disability or disturbance, think of them as battle scars, from a fight you've overcome.
often emotional pain is numbed by physical pain. i suggest trying to bring up your mood. don't take any medications as those **** up your brain chemistry. try for something more natural, like exercising more (that may help you feel differently about your body image too). going outside and getting at least an hour of full sun a day. eating lots of fruits and vegetables. avoiding dairy. when you eat right your body feels better, which makes dealing with life circumstances easier.
in my times of depression i found that eating raw eggs boosted my energy, and though i thought i was depressed, maybe i was just lethargic, and an energy boost was all i needed. i was also malnourished so that helped me.
anyways, this idea kind of deviated from 'normal' responses to mood disorders (mainly because i don't believe that conventional methods work).
anyways, with the attitude "do people like me ever find love and acceptance"... not if they continue to pity themselves. you need to feel like a whole person, proud of who you are, not ashamed. that's what attracts people. sadness and depression attracts people to each other, so in being depressed you may find someone to be depressed with you, but if you want more than depression and wallowing in each other's pity, then you may want to increase your self-esteem.
i know that may be hard to hear, but i don't sugar coat things and i think it's important to develop a sense of self love before you try to love other people.
Yes, I had a friend who used to cut himself and is now married. It would be best to be upfront with this person about your experiences in the past. Especially since you have overcome the cutting - that is a testiment to who you are. Aren't you beautiful and good? That is what you need to accept about yourself. You have much to offer even though it doesn't seem like it now. Accept yourself first and good will come to your life.
oh honey, i never thought there was someone like me. i started cutting when i was 14 and im 16 and i wont lie i still do it sometimes. you will find love. i am also bisexual so that is a little different. my body has many many scars that i am a little ashamed of. but i do not regret it. it feels good right? well i am also still a virgin so no one has seen my body and scars on my legs. im glad you stopped though it is very hard. well i met this girl at a show and we hit it off. greatly in fact. then we talked a lot and because i trusted her i just told her that i have cut and that i still want to at times but dont really do it anymore. and ut all turned out that she didnt mind it. i love her, but i cant be with her because she is an hour away. and we dont do that sort of thing. but she cares about me a lot and thats all that matters to me. and i have told her my feelings plenty of times. it is hard ill tell you that much. but the best thing is to suck it in, and just say it. its a 50% chance its good and 50% chance the reply will be bad. but i never thought i could have love or feel love or even be cared because of how i grew up and school. but honey you will feel a lot better that you tell him and know the outcome instead of sitting there and just wondering what the outcome will be. i hope i helped you out. You Are Not Alone!
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