Self-confidence..?
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don't worry, it's just that you're not a very outgoing person, and that's perfectly fine!
one thing you do have to change is the way you feel about yourself.
forget about the negative thoughts of what your friends might think of you-their not going to think you're weird, TRUST ME.
their going to be glad actually, trust me.
I have a friend who's extremely quiet and shy, and does not speak a word and rarely even speaks up. but, those rare times she does talk, we all realize what a funny person she is and we talk about how we wish she talked more often because we all love her sense of humor.
and i assure you, this is how your friends think of you.
everybody has a sense of humor, their just afraid to show it.
so next morning you wake up, look in the mirror and smile, no matter how much of a bedhead you have or whatever, smile and say "beautiful".
roll your shoulders back and put your head high and speak up.
trust me, it's all going to work out.
good luck <3
you just sound shy.give people a chance to like you.what's going on in your head is much worst than anything that would happen in real life
Being 'yourself' (first looking silly is your way also of checking out if your situation is safe to be 'really' yourself and that's another issue...) has gotton you into trouble many times in the past. Getting the approval of significant others is also why you fear being yourself (what's underneath the silly displays). Your anxiety might be high so you remain silent to protect yourself from further hurt (people laughing, etc...).
I am an adult. I've been where you've been. I in involved in work with kids below 12. It takes a long time for them to trust me and open up. After that, I take everything they say as 'gospel truth' bc they also fear being seen as silly; i take their thoughts as genuinely valid, so I don't laugh at them; everyone has their own say. I can appreciate the opinions coming from young ones, although when it comes to real life danger issues, I will tell it to them. They appreciate my discernment.
there is nothing wrong with you. Be careful, though, bc life does not present itself to you as safe all the time but it takes experience, character, and the x-factor coming from above (which also takes experience in trying to access, not in a spooky way, but sensibly, as in all life experiences) to demonstrate that life indeed is more than what you know.
Find someone safe (rare, but can be found) you can share your thoughts with.
First you need to learn to accept yourself. there's nothing wrong with being shy n being so self-conscious.
Then learn to let go of yourself.
It's ok for you to feel this now cuz you may still be finding your personality or character.
Make sure you do things that you'r sure not to be embarrassd about. But if your friends think badly of you when you do something then they'r not your real friends. You'll know if they'r your real friends if you can really be yourself around them.
If you don't like to talk to the counsellor, mayb you can talk to your best friend. Cuz I don't think you have a disorder. You can mail me or smthn if you still need help. Or just tell me how it goes.
There's a lot of people like you actually. You shouldn't be worried that something is wrong or different about you. I feel like this sometimes too, actually.
You could use some more self-confidence, probably. Confidence is always useful, but it sometimes gets you in trouble. The only way to be more confident is probably the worst scenario situation for someone who needs it.
You need to put yourself in a situation where you would need confidence. Act as if you do. And when everything turns out OK, you are more confident.
Nothing is as bad as it may seem. Just think of that. Good Luck.
you don't have to worried, many people feel that way too
but there is a guide that can help you to resolve the problem. this is not some kind of self confidence traditional program and stuff. there is many material that would benefiting you, its not as simple as you think but i think you would try everything to solve your problem isn't it? http://www.self-esteemnow.com/index.htm?...
do not cry i can help you thru dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. try socialanxietyassist.com, try socialanxietyfriends.com, and call 1888 826 9438 an anxiety line. also get books on how to overcome this
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