Why am I so afraid of change?
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I know the feeling but remind yourself that you do indeed have the courage to face these changes. Try "facing it" for just a few minutes a day, gradually increasing your "Reality-Confrontation-Time". Then, relax and give yourself a break. We're all of us only human and do your best but don't put yourself down.
OCD.
If nothing changes, everything stays the same....
go see a therapist
You're used to those habits, as they say, old habits die hard.
"The devil you know is better than the devil you don't know"
its an american thing, its pretty normal.
your just set in your own ways and you like it that way
You need to get to the bottom of this & find out why you are fearful? I think speaking to a counsellor would be the best way to go they are there to listen to you & not judge you. I think it sounds like you need to go deeper & find out whats in you that is preventing you fr doing what you want to do. Take that first step & make an appointment to see someone you feel comfortable with.
Aww hun don't worry =]
You have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
Don't worry you're normal I have OCD too !
Don't be afraid of change, don't think too much and try to tell yourself calmly to stop doing bad habits. I suggest you get therapy and Yoga, it really works !
Hope things come out for you .
Good luck sweetie !
you fear failing so you do not try to avoid failing you need to realize that you fail by not trying.
stop being a looser
unless you like being a weak looser!
It's not just you, it's most people. Your brain is "hard-wired" in a way that refuses the unfamiliar. You reject success. Try reading "The War of Art" by Steven Pressfield. It deals directly with this issue and gives steps on how to eradicate resistance.
maybe because ur so use to the same things and scared of change that it might make u someone different. i feel the same way and thats something im trying to deal with right now buts it sooooo hard for me im feel lost.alot of people are scared of the unknowen i beleive im the same way.its a hard issuse for me anyways to deal with i say take alittle at a time and rememeber that ur changing for a better life.good luck
It sounds like you could have OCD. Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Also, the nervousness could be anxiety. Often times with OCD, the habits are unusual (i.e. counting things, checking things, obsessive thoughts). It's very ritualistic too, like, you feel like if you don't do your habits, something bad might happen. I'm not a doctor, so I could be wrong, but what you said sounds a lot like OCD and anxiety so your best bet would be to go to a psychiatrist who can set you up with a therapist and or medication. Good Luck :)
that is normal to be scared of change. alot of ppl dont fulfill their destiny cause of the fear. they wont step out and try for something better or different cause of the comfort zone. never get satisfied with your comfort zone. step out and face your fear, have faith that you can do it! you believe in God? call on him he'll help you through!
It's because you are trying to change 'too much, too soon.' If you KNOW that you have these bad habits that DO need to be 'changed' then take a 'baby-steps' approach. Pick the 'worst habit' first, and then 'reward yourself' when you can go 'half a day' without doing or thinking in that 'habitual' way. Your reward should be 'small' like a small dark chocolate from an expensive store. Next time reward yourself for going a full day without doing or thinking it. Small reward again. Next time two days. Then three, four, five ... up to two weeks before you give yourself your reward. TAKE YOUR TIME to 'break' each bad habit and 'replace it' with something more acceptable. Give yourself rewards after each 'small step' you take toward 'improving yourself.' YOU CAN CHANGE and YOU WILL CHANGE ... but ANYTHING, even 'being better' at anything is EXTREMELY SCARY ... so take 'baby steps' through as many of those 'bad habits' that you have, and you will get 'closer and closer' to being the 'better person' you really do HOPE to be someday.
I'm with you on this one. I am the same way.
it sucks I know.
save money, save enough money to where you have at least 3 months bills paid if you were not working. then put that money in a CD, Bond, or savings account and NEVER touch it, unless your not working and have no other options because that will save you.
what this does is secure your life for 3 months, and when you know your life is secure for at least 3 months you feel better.
then save more money, and when your able to, pick a place to go, and just go, but make sure you have access to at least $1,000. in the bank and $300. on you. this way you feel safe, like if you get in a situation you can get out.
this trip will help you see that their is more in life and you have no reason to fear any thing, because if you can leave your home state for a week or two then you can do any thing with out fear.
and as I said the money secures your mind, so that you always feel like you have a way out of any situation.
I know saving is easier said then done. but that is what I did.
My guess is that you are afraid of success because with it comes great expectations. You may feel like you don't want the pressure of living up to others expectations of you.
Your bad habits are OK and probably have enabled you to survive but...now it is time to shed them. Go ahead and dare to be productive and change your energy. For example, if you are always late for work then try to get to work on time for a few days in a row. You have to do one or two things different to cultivate positive energy.
Hang in there my friend, and look the new and improved successful you in the eye and exclaim...I am ready for success, i.e. CHANGE.
GOOD LUCK :-)
Nothing wrong with that really. Most people don't like to change unless they have to. If you change often or all the time then it got to be something wrong with you. People like to stay the same in the comfort zone. You don't have to think much of what to do next. You just doing your own thing everyday. Because our life change everyday, we are not stay the same. For instant,we get older and concern more. Enjoy life, stop worrying too much.
Change makes you nervous because you are worried that what you are changing could have some negative side effects.
You are worried that things might get worse if you change your habits, so you'd rather live as you are right now.
I say try to change one thing, and keep at it for 21 days. That's how long it takes to make a habit. So if you have a bad habit, then you'll pick up a new one, a good one, and you will feel more balanced.
Change isn't bad, and it shouldn't be difficult or scary. And you shouldn't want to change every thing about yourself, because striving for perfection can make you feel worse.
It is human nature to fear the unknown,, thus is where courage comes from,, to face your fear.
If you want to change all these bad habbits of yours then dont try and do them all at once,, then you will never succeed. Start with the smallest one and work your way up from there,, but you must also motivate yourself, I suggest by seeing yourself as you would like to be,, a picture of how you would be if you didnt have all these bad habbits and such, and how mutch better you will feel about yourself. Then every time you feel you are going to fail,, keep that in mind,, I know,, Smoking was a very bad one for me. I also suggest getting something else to do to take the place of the habbit you are dropping. Exercise is always a good motivator. Good Luck.
Peace Be With You
DRAGON
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