Trauma .?
Question:
since then i am unable to forget those nightmare situations i faced
I am trying my best to forget the past ...
but still after i wake up from bed i immediatley get a glance of how happy i used to be before last yr (nostalgia..) and this bitter most experience i had
do you think i will ever get my happy days back?
what i should have done? i should do?
i pity myself and my paernts that we were in this situation rite now
Answers:
I am so sorry to hear of your loss and there is no pathology in grief. You are grieving a traumatic loss and what you describe sounds totally normal for someone in your situation. Please talk with your parents and family as there is a great chance that are feeling much the same way as you. Often people don't share their feelings for fear that they will upset one another, but grieving together can be the most healing experience. You may also want to consider a support group or counseling at an agency that deals with grief and loss, but giving voice to your feelings and finding ways that allow you to grieve your loss would be the healthiest thing.
Blessed Be.
I am sorry about your loss.
You could be suffering from a condition called Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. You might want to seek professional help in order to deal with your feelings.
I know how hard something like this can be on everyone in the family. It can tear you and your family apart but you can't let it destroy your life. You are focusing on the moment of his death. What about all the happy and wonderful things during his life? Try to focus on things that happened while he was alive and celebrate his life not his death. He would want you to. He would not want to see you suffering and unable to move ahead in your life. Remember every person alive has tragedy in their lives and they each have to find a way to move forward and live. Everyone has something happen in their lives that they wish never occurred. Everyone has problems they have to handle and learn how to deal with. People die every single moment of every day. If we all became paralyzed from the death of a loved one the world would soon come to a stand still and filled with bitterness and anger. Think of some things that happened with you and your brother. Talk to family about them and try to laugh and cry over happy memories of his life so you can move on and look forward to your future.
If you need someone to talk to you can e-mail me and i will gladly help you.
I'm sorry hun! I think losing someone is one of lifes hardest hardships! It does take time to get over the lose! Take this time and grieve for your brother! Life will continue on and as time passes it might not hurt so bad! Cherish your brothers memories and his photos! It just takes time to heal. You may need to see a doctor, you may have some type of depression or post tramatic stress disorder! They may prescribe meds to help you cope better! hugs!
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